I have a friend who is currently being judged for her decisions that she feels are right for her. She has stepped back from her situation and looked at it from all angles, mulled over options and made the best decision based on everyone involved.
Surprisingly, those closest to her have been the most critical. I still haven’t figured out why people think they have the right to judge others as we all have our own paths in life, ones that we must create and travel on our own.
The finger pointing, tongue wagging, raised eyebrow comments have been cruel and a tragic waste of time and energy! I have witnessed the mental consequences of the harsh remarks and lack of support.
In the near future, my friend will be walking the path of her choice, good or bad, and eventually the finger pointers will move on.They will find someone else on which to focus their attention.
Unfortunately, their words have left mental scars that can’t be erased. The critical words will forever be in the back of my friends mind as she embarks on this new path.
I am helping her release the heavy weight of others judgments. Creating personal boundaries are allowing her to stand tall with a sense of calm and confidence!
If you are experiencing mental anguish from harsh criticism and judgment, I have written a tapping script to assist you in letting go of the emotional zing that may accompany that situation .
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page or listen to both audios at the top and right of this post. They will provide you with everything you need to know! Remember to change the words to fit your personal situation so it resonates with you!
Start with the Karate
chop point.
Karate chop point:
"Even though no one thinks I am making the right decisions, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I just want to curl up in a ball and cry, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though everyone makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing, I know I am a good person anyway”
Round One:
EB: All this criticism
SE: All this judgment
UE: They have no idea
"Even though no one thinks I am making the right decisions, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I just want to curl up in a ball and cry, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though everyone makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing, I know I am a good person anyway”
Round One:
EB: All this criticism
SE: All this judgment
UE: They have no idea
UN: What I am going through
CH: They don’t know all the details
CB: They don’t have all the facts
UA: But they still think they know best
HD: They are trying to rule my life
WR: They have no freakin clue!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**
Round Two:
EB: I can’t take back what has happened
SE: Now I have to make decisions
UE: I have come to a fork in the road
UN: I must decide my new path
CH: A path that will close the door
CB: On all that has happened
UA: And lead me to a new chapter
HD: Good or bad
WR: This will be my decision
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**
Round Three:
EB: A year from now
SE: All my critics will have forgotten about this situation
UE: They will be living their own lives
UN: Or maybe they will have found others to criticize
CH: After all, they have all the answers
CB: They must be perfect themselves
UA: They must have made all the perfect decisions in their lives
HD: That’s why they feel qualified to judge mine
WR: Yet they all live in glass houses!
**Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**
Round Four:
EB: I do realize their finger pointing
SE: Is really all about them
UE: And their need to feel superior
UN: And their need to control others
CH: It isn’t about me
CB: I can’t fix their insecurities
UA: They own those
HD: I have my own problems to fix
WR: It’s time to move on
**Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**
Round Five:
EB: I am feeling
better already
SE: I know I am
making the right decisions for my situation
UE: I am ready for
the next step
UN: I am confident
that I can live with this decision
CH: I am feeling
lighter and happier
CB: I choose to
remain calm and confident
UA: I know I am
moving in the right direction
HD: I can let go of
the criticism now
WR: I am ready travel
down my new path now!
**Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**
Round Six:
EB: It’s time to let
it go
SE: Let it go
UE: Let it go
UN: It’s safe to let it all go
CH: I’m safe
CB: All the criticism, finger pointing, harsh words, disappointments, sadness and guilt
UA: It’s safe to let them all go
HD: I’m ready to let them go
WR: I'm ready to move on !
SE: Let it go
UE: Let it go
UN: It’s safe to let it all go
CH: I’m safe
CB: All the criticism, finger pointing, harsh words, disappointments, sadness and guilt
UA: It’s safe to let them all go
HD: I’m ready to let them go
WR: I'm ready to move on !
**Take a deep breath and say “PEACE”**
Showering you with blessings of a clear conscious and brand new chapter!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker
Showering you with blessings of a clear conscious and brand new chapter!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker
Audio Version available in the near future!
