Nick Ortner speaking on EFT Tapping for Pain Relief at Hay House Washington, D.C. Event

Imagine being a flight attendant and having a passenger purposely trip you when you were walking down the aisle because he was upset at you for something... and having that fall be so hard that it forced you to quit doing the job you always wanted to do because of the long term physical pain.

EFT is not a magic wand. You have to do the work!

Just like when you recruit the services of a Personal Trainer to get your body into shape, they are not there to do the push-ups, stretches, squats etc for you. It would be no good just watching your Personal Trainer work out and expect to get the same results for your own body.

 It's the same with EFT. If you commit to doing the tapping you will see great results.
You have to do the work yourself. The more you tap the greater the results.

EFT is not a magic wand you can wave above your head to make all your worries and anxieties go away - job done. EFT is a practical tool that you can use to clear out all the negative memories and experiences that are still keeping you stuck in the past, afraid to move forward.

You can do a lot of the work yourself once you learn the technique, but a trained and skilled EFT Practitioner will help guide you to uncover what lies beneath the surface. It's important to not go where you don't belong on your own. Save any 'big stuff' that you may uncover and work with a Practitioner. You'll feel safe and guided rather than scared and overwhelmed.

Tap every day on every day things. Traffic jams; work relationships; general aches and pains, and should you uncover something that feels like it might overwhelm you - don't go there alone. Just as a skilled Personal Trainer will assign you the correct techniques as a newbie to get you on the right path to fitness, so will an EFT Practitioner.

They'll guide you and support you through every phase of your learning experience with EFT so you'll get that same sense of achievement you do when you've run your first mile or cycled your first circuit.

Original blog post can be found at:

Debs Sutton is an AAMET qualified EFT Practitioner helping mums strengthen their maternal bond with their baby or young child, and helping artists and musicians to combat stage fright, audition & performance anxiety and to improve performance excellence. 

Migraine Gone in Less than 10 Minutes

I don't know of anything worse than a headache when you are trying to be productive, unless it's a migraine headache!

Although I have been lucky enough to never have experienced one, I am surrounded by co-workers that do and they are miserable! The aura, the nausea and vomiting, the blurred vision and lightheadedness are crippling to those that suffer.

If you suffer from headaches, or worse yet, migraines, you might want to consider incorporating EFT or tapping to help conquer those nasty beasts.

Lindsay Kenny, an EFT master wrote about her positive experience with EFT and migraines.

You can find the following article at:
"I have so many positive stories about headache and pain relief from EFT that I’m not sure which one to share with you. So I must at least tell you about two. The first is about a friend of mine, “Sherry” who was stressed out with 2 rambunctious children under the age of four … and … 3 demanding jobs (catering, hospitality, and a wedding planning service).

She also had frequent migraines, but at the time I was so new in my practice that I didn’t realize EFT would work for migraines. I taught Sherry EFT to help deal with the stress of her children and careers and she was so excited to know there was something to ease her emotional burden.

Sherry had been using EFT for a couple of weeks for her stress with great success when she got hit one night with a horrific migraine. She called the next day to tell me how she was at her wit’s end with screaming kids, a must-meet deadline and this killer migraine.

Sherry was out of medication and out of her mind in pain, so she tried lying on the floor and tapping for relief, not knowing whether or not EFT would help. She said that relief came within minutes of tapping and that the migraine was completely gone in less than 10 minutes. She was delighted and astounded. And so was I. That was the first time I knew EFT could work on such serious ailments.

Then, just a few weeks later, I had my own personal migraine trauma. It had been over two years since I’d had a migraine and I thought I was over them for good. But while going through a particularly stressful period in my life I was in a department store when I felt a migraine quickly coming on. The clerk waiting on me said “My goodness girl, what’s happening to you? You suddenly look like someone put a vice on your head.”

And that’s how it felt. I rushed to my car and started tapping while on the way there. The relief began within seconds and within minutes the migraine was completely gone. It was so quickly dissipated that I drove away from the mall thinking of all the things I still had to do that day and forgot about the migraine entirely. It wasn’t until an hour or so later that I realized how quickly and completely the migraine had vanished and how significant the pain relief had been.

Now I tell all my clients and friends about the added benefit of pain relief with EFT as well as the remarkable emotional freedom it offers.

Naturally I use and teach EFT to my clients and friends for the emotional problems they face. But both myself and my clients have experienced complete success with pain such as carpel tunnel syndrome, rotator cuff, burn and cut wounds, cramps, headaches, gas and bloating, and many other bodily injuries or pain.
Furthermore, based on a testimonial I read in one of your newsletters about lactose intolerance, I used EFT for it and am I now lactose intolerant-free. Now that one really amazes me!

Lindsay Kenny


If you have never tried tapping to reduce pain, I highly encourage you to try it.
Here is a tapping script for headache pain 

Calm a drama filled child with a "Relax Bottle"

One way of calming our own inner storms is to calm the inner storms of a dramatic child!
Although my children are grown and I don't have grandchildren yet, I recently found this post and thought it was worthy of sharing!

The original article can be found at:

Johanna Spaulding starts out by saying.... "Sooooo… I have a three-year-old little girl who is full of drama.  Probably not the only one in history, but one of my current dilemmas.  When time out time comes for bad behaviour I find myself with a little girl on the bottom step screaming, kicking walls and not able to even calm down enough to learn her lesson.  This was getting worse and worse until I told my husband, “there has to be a better way, I’m going to research this.”

Read the rest of the blog post and get the full instructions at:

I liked this idea so well, I may take one to work with me for any "drama" filled co-workers! ha ha

3 Emotional Skills For Weight Loss

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  • Almost all diets are broken because of "emotional distress." 
  • Most overeating occurs in the state of tense tiredness . 
  • The highest predictor of obesity is an environment of uncertainty and insecurity 

Emotional eating can be disastrous to your body and to your confidence.
 Managing negative emotions and stress is an essential skill for weight loss.

Join me to learn 3 essential emotional skills for weight loss that can help make your tapping more effective.

Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC, is one of the world’s leading experts in using Emotional Freedom Techniques to help people lose weight without dieting, stop binge eating, and reduce anxiety and stress.

I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair….

I was pulled into a conversation recently by a woman talking about a man that used to be in her life. She had been struggling with the fact that she couldn’t let go of “what was” or what could have been. 

As I engaged her in conversation, she informed me that this unfortunate parting happened 20 years ago! She had been emotionally carrying this man around for two decades. Her life had literally been hijacked and she had become a prisoner of her own mind.

Not surprisingly, she had not allowed anyone to get close to her over the years. She even dressed the part, all covered up like she was hiding from the world, protecting her heart from being broken again.  She wore a turtleneck and a scarf covered by a coat that was buttoned from the top to bottom. She looked stiff and imprisoned.

I expressed my sympathies and asked her if she would be open to letting go of her heavy burden. She nodded yes, but I could see the skepticism in her eyes. After all, she had been lugging around this heavy heart for twenty years, what could I offer that would help her?

I asked her if she knew about meridian tapping or EFT as it is commonly called and she shook her head no. I briefly explained the concept and said that I was willing to work with her right at that moment if she was willing. She definitely was!

She began to explain the events surrounding the break up, her eyes filled with tears. She was definitely a “10+” on the emotional scale. She had been this emotionally charged for twenty years.

She sobbed as she told me the story and I physically tapped on her acupressure points, allowing her to talk and cry. After a few rounds, I stopped her and asked her to take a deep breath.  She seemed a little calmer as she wiped her tears away. 

She continued her story as I tapped. She explained that he had moved on, married, started a family and still she couldn’t let go of what could have been. The tears started flowing harder as she imagined him happy with his new life, his new family. She couldn’t understand how he could be so happy without her. 

After a few more rounds, she breathed deeply and yawned and started to settle down once again. 

Her sadness then turned to anger as she realized all the lost years she had spent thinking about “what could have been”.
All the lost relationships, all the happy memories she could have created had she not tortured herself by living in the past. She had put her life on hold for twenty years as she gazed into the rear view mirror of her life.

We tapped her anger from a 10 to a 1 when she realized that she was angry at herself, not the man that left her 20 years ago. She had made the choice not to forgive and move on. She soon realized she had been playing the victim card all along, feeling sorry for herself. It was easier to play victim than it was to take responsibility for her own happiness and move on.

Too often we get caught up in the “poor me, look what happened to me” mantra, and we don’t pick ourselves up and forge ahead.  We search for happiness outside ourselves, instead of looking inside ourselves to find peace and happiness.

Once we realize we are not victims, we can then find the lesson in the experience. It is often the darkest moments of our lives that cause us to grow the most, if we allow it.

I saw “Carol” recently and she looked years younger!  She carried herself differently and even dressed differently. Her clothes were lighter in color, were flowing and had a carefree feel to them. She was so excited to tell me that she had been out on several dates and, in fact, she had found someone she loved spending time with. Nothing serious had materialized yet, but she had not ruled it out. She was finally experiencing the happiness she had been seeking for so many years!

If you are at a place in your life where you can’t move forward because you are looking in the rear view mirror of life, try tapping. Tap away the anger, the betrayal and the hurt and start a new chapter.   

You can start today and the following script might be a great starting point.
For those who are familiar with tapping, I have written a tapping script that you may find useful.
Remember to change the words to fit your personal situation so it resonates with you!

 If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page or listen to both audios at the top and right of this post. They will provide you with everything you need to know! Remember to change the words to fit your personal situation so it resonates with you!

Start with the Karate chop point.

Karate chop point:

"Even though I can’t stop thinking about what could have been, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I feel abandoned, I honor this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though I know I should move on, it’s easier said than done”

Round One:

EB: All this abandonment
SE: I feel left behind
UE: Standing all alone
UN: With no one to love me
CH: I keep thinking about what could have been
CB: How great our life could have been together
UA: I guess he didn’t feel the same
HD: Now here I am
WR: Left to deal with the loneliness

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**

Round Two:

EB: I know I need to move on
SE: I needed to do it a long time ago
UE: I was easier said than done
UN: The pity parties were kind of fun in their own way
CH: But now I look back and realize I’ve missed out on so much
CB:  It’s time to move on
UA: I am ready
HD: I want to let go
WR: I am ready to wash that man right outta my hair!

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**

Round Three:

EB: I’m getting excited thinking about the possibilities
SE: Of being happy again
UE: Of sharing my life with someone who WANTS to be with me
UN: Of making new memories
CH: This might be easier than I ever imagined
CB: Why did I wait so long to forgive and move on
UA: So much time was wasted
HD: But no more!
WR: I am taking charge of my happiness starting today!

**Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the fourth round of tapping**

Round Four:

EB: It’s time to let it go
SE: Let it go
UE: Let it go
UN: It’s safe to let it go
CH: I’m safe
CB: All this hurt, all this sadness, all this betrayal, all this grief
UA: It’s safe to let it all go
HD: I’m ready to let it go
WR: I’m ready to start a new chapter in my life!

**Take a deep breath and say “PEACE”**

Showering you with blessings of a new chapter and many happy memories!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker

Here is a diagram and explanation of the tapping points. 

He Who Lives in a Glass House Shouldn't Throw Stones...

Have you ever been harshly or unjustly judged at some point in your life? If you've never been a target of finger pointing, consider yourself blessed! 

 I have a friend who is currently being judged for her decisions that she feels are right for her. She has stepped back from her situation and looked at it from all angles, mulled over options and made the best decision based on everyone involved.

 Surprisingly, those closest to her have been the most critical. I still haven’t figured out why people think they have the right to judge others as we all have our own paths in life, ones that we must create and travel on our own. 

The finger pointing, tongue wagging, raised eyebrow comments have been cruel and a tragic waste of time and energy! I have witnessed the mental consequences of the harsh remarks and lack of support. 

In the near future, my friend will be walking the path of her choice, good or bad, and eventually the finger pointers will move on.They will find someone else on which to focus their attention.

 Unfortunately, their words have left mental scars that can’t be erased. The critical words will forever be in the back of my friends mind as she embarks on this new path. 

 I am helping her release the heavy weight of others judgments. Creating personal boundaries are allowing her to stand tall with a sense of calm and confidence!

 If you are experiencing mental anguish from harsh criticism and judgment, I have written a tapping script to assist you in letting go of the emotional zing that may accompany that situation .

 If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page or listen to both audios at the top and right of this post. They will provide you with everything you need to know! Remember to change the words to fit your personal situation so it resonates with you!

Start with the Karate chop point.

Karate chop point:

"Even though no one thinks I am making the right decisions, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I just want to curl up in a ball and cry, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though everyone makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing, I know I am a good person anyway”

Round One:

EB: All this criticism
SE: All this judgment
UE: They have no idea

UN: What I am going through
CH: They don’t know all the details
CB: They don’t have all the facts
UA: But they still think they know best
HD: They are trying to rule my life
WR: They have no freakin clue!

          ** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**

Round Two:

EB: I can’t take back what has happened
SE: Now I have to make decisions
UE: I have come to a fork in the road
UN: I must decide my new path
CH: A path that will close the door
CB:  On all that has happened
UA:  And lead me to a new chapter
HD: Good or bad
WR: This will be my decision

          ** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**

Round Three:

EB: A year from now
SE: All my critics will have forgotten  about this situation
UE: They will be living their own lives
UN: Or maybe they will have found others to criticize
CH: After all, they have all the answers
CB: They must be perfect themselves
UA: They must have made all the perfect decisions in their lives
HD: That’s why they feel qualified to judge mine
WR: Yet they all live in glass houses!

          **Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**

Round Four:

EB: I do realize their finger pointing
SE: Is really all about them
UE: And their need to feel superior
UN: And their need to control others
CH: It isn’t about me
CB: I can’t fix their insecurities
UA: They own those
HD: I have my own problems to fix
WR: It’s time to move on

           **Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**

Round Five:

EB: I am feeling better already

SE: I know I am making the right decisions for my situation

UE: I am ready for the next step

UN: I am confident that I can live with this decision

CH: I am feeling lighter and happier

CB: I choose to remain calm and confident

UA: I know I am moving in the right direction

HD: I can let go of the criticism now

WR: I am ready travel down my new path now!

            **Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the next round**

Round Six:

EB: It’s time to let it go
SE: Let it go
UE: Let it go
UN: It’s safe to let it all go
CH: I’m safe
CB: All the criticism, finger pointing, harsh words, disappointments, sadness and guilt
UA: It’s safe to let them all go
HD: I’m ready to let them go
WR: I'm ready to move on !

                                      **Take a deep breath and say “PEACE”**

Showering you with blessings of a clear conscious and brand new chapter!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker

          Audio Version available in the near future!

How Serious Are You About Living Stress Free?

I just finished watching a trailer for a new book about EFT Tapping, that was inspiring, captivating and eye-opening, and it reminded me about how we have the power, each and every day, to completely transform our lives
The book, which was just released this week  by Hay House Publishing, is called “The Tapping Solution”, and it’s written by tapping expert Nick Ortner. 
This new book will take you step-by-step, using both both beginner and advanced tapping
techniques, through a trans-formative process that will improve your life by leaps and bounds.

Whether you’re new to Tapping, or you’ve been Tapping for years, I highly recommend you check out this book as it has some amazing new distinctions about how Tapping can be most effective for you today.