How the Subconscious Mind Works

Have you ever been told that you can't control other people, only your reaction to that person and/or circumstance?
That's true, but did you realize that your subconscious is running the show?
It determines how you are going to react in any given situation and it all starts at birth....

Steve Remmert does a great job of explaining how the subconscious works - it all makes sense now!

What Happens in Your Brain While You're Tapping?

When you use the FasterEFT process, the effects are not just “in your mind”. Physical changes happen in your brain as you use the technique. It literally changes the structure of the neocortex of your brain as old connections are replaced by new. As you use the FasterEFT technique on an ongoing basis, you are changing the neural connections in your brain – which will result in an automatic change to the way you think. And thinking differently will naturally change the results you experience in your life.

How Does it Work?

The neocortex is the outer part of the brain – the walnut-shaped part that we all recognize as the brain. When you have a thought, a connection is made in this part of the brain between nerve cells or neurons. Every thought is a connection. Thinking the same thought over and over creates a more permanent connection between those particular neurons. This is how we learn intellectually. When a particular neural pathway is no longer being used, the connection begins to atrophy and those neurons no longer fire together. This is how we forget information. 

The connection in the neocortex triggers the limbic brain (chemical brain) – which is positioned underneath the neocortex – to produce chemicals that cause a sensation, a feeling, that matches the thought. With repetition, the combination of the neural pathway becoming more permanent and the limbic brain producing the matching chemicals causes the cerebellum (the reptilian brain) – the seat of the subconscious – to record the response. This is the reason you’re able to drive home for 30 minutes and not remember the journey. Your cerebellum is doing the driving. It’s also the reason you react automatically with no conscious decision when someone “pushes your buttons”.

So, What’s it Got to Do with FasterEFT?

 When you use the FasterEFT process, you are addressing the original records in the subconscious, and making changes to them.

Getting over a loved one using Faster EFT

This is a good article from Robert Smith and how to use tapping to reduce the negative feelings of grief. We all grieve differently and for different lengths of time; there is no right or wrong answer.
If you want to move on, but for some reason it doesn't feel right or you just don't know where to start, this article may just be what you are looking for. 

Losing someone you love is a heartbreaking, traumatic experience; and it’s one that can be near to impossible to fully recover from. The fact is, it is unavoidable; and no matter how you feel you cannot change the reality of it. The truth is that the feelings of grief over the loss of a loved one cannot change the event, but they do have an effect on you and those around you. Finding a way to overcome these feelings as soon as possible will help to give you the strength to reach a place where you are able to honor your loved one in place of grieving them.

FasterEFT can help you to make the changes very quickly and effectively; and in addition to using this technique it is helpful to acknowledge and remind yourself of certain facts:

The Effects of Grief

  1. If you have lost a loved one, your grief cannot bring them back or undo the event.
  1. Grief is a stress state that puts the body into “fight or flight”. This means that while you are feeling grief, blood is being pumped away from your organs to your extremities (to run away or fight), your heart-rate is increased, your digestive system is not working effectively, your body is not healing as fast, the cells of your body are receiving molecules of the stress hormones in place of nutrients, and the activity in the prefrontal cortex of your brain (where your cognitive thinking takes place) is reduced.
While the body is designed to survive in this emergency state for short periods of time (as long as it takes to escape a predator), long-term fight or flight states can cause damage and disease as well as affect genetic expression. For more information on the details of this, read: How Can Emotions Affect Physical Health.
  1. While you are in a state of grief, since the activity in your prefrontal cortex has been reduced, your cognitive thinking is impaired. This means that you are unable to think as clearly, communicate as effectively, see solutions, process information, and make objective decisions as you can when you are in a normal, balanced emotional state.
  1. Those around you are heavily impacted by the way you are feeling as it naturally affects your choices, decisions, behaviors, responses and communication.
  1. You are unable to really honor your loved one with love, appreciation, peace and happiness while you are in a state of grief. The sooner you are able to move out of that state, the sooner you will be able to think of that person with pure love and joy, minus the negative effects.
If you feel it may be disrespectful and uncaring to cut short the grieving process, read:How Long Should You Grieve After a Loss?

How to Use FasterEFT to Get Over Your Loss

Having realized the importance of spending as little time as possible in the state of grief over the loss of a loved one, it’s time to use the technique to get yourself through it as quickly and effectively as possible.

Step One
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and focus on the feeling of grief. Focus on how you feel about the loss of your loved one. Notice where you feel that feeling in your body, and notice how strong it is. If zero represents not feeling it at all, and 10 represents the feeling being very strong, how strong is that feeling for you right now? Just notice it.

Step Two
Now, using two fingers, gently tap the following meridian points while focusing on the feeling of your fingers on your skin and saying the phrases.
– Between your eyebrows – I release and let this go now
– Beside your eye – It’s okay to let it go now
– Under your eye – I don’t need it anymore, and it’s safe to let it go now
– Just below your collarbone – That’s right, just let it all go; and I’m safe as I’m letting it go now

Step Three
Grab your wrist, take a deep breath, blow it out, and say “Peace”. Go to a peaceful memory and enjoy the feeling of that for a moment. In fact, it is even more effective if you go to a peaceful or fun memory you have of your loved one. A time you spent together that was fun or funny is ideal.

Step Four
Now, go back to the feeling of grief; and notice what’s different. Notice if the intensity of the grief has changed in any way. Notice any sensations in your body. Just notice what’s still there.

Step Five
Go back and repeat Steps Two through Four until the grief has completely gone and has been replaced by your positive feelings and memories of your loved one.

Keys to Remember

These are the key points that will help you to recover as quickly as possible:
  1. Your grief, while natural, is doing nothing to change the situation. It is not doing anything that will help you to move forward.
  1. Although it is natural to feel that by getting over your loss too soon you are showing disrespect to the person you’ve lost – think, for a moment, what they would prefer. If they love you, they would not want you to suffer. If your places were switched, would you rather they suffer as you have been; or would you rather they focus on the wonderful moments and fun you had together, remembering you with love and joy?
  1. Do not stop tapping until you have completely cleared the feelings of grief and loss and they’ve been replaced by feelings of love, peace, gratitude and other positive feelings.
  1. From now on, whenever you think of your loved one, if you feel any feelings at all that don’t feel good, use the FasterEFT process to tap them out in the moment. Don’t let them grow – the sooner you tap them out, the easier it is. The idea is to replace all sadness and grief with the good memories you have of your loved one.
Remind yourself that your sadness and grief does nothing to change what happened, and it causes damage to yourself and those around you. And then ask yourself, how would your loved one prefer you to feel?

5 Steps to Resolving Chronic Illnesses

For those who have been living with chronic illnesses and have tried everything to find relief, it can be difficult to remain hopeful. It can be extremely difficult to resist falling into depression, hopelessness and helplessness. Tiffany Jeffers and Heather McKean are two, among the thousands of the people who found freedom from chronic illnesses – using FasterEFT. While it may sound too good to be true, when you understand how and why FasterEFT works, it will all make perfect sense.

Once you start working with the FasterEFT Tapping technique, you’ll realize that you’ve stored all of the traumatic memories from your life in your body. In other words, painful and traumatic memories are represented within your body as chronic illnesses. Even the ones you consciously can’t remember – those are the ones that show up as pain and other symptoms in your body. Freedom from severe pain can bring unimagined joy in your life, but only if you apply these techniques.

Let’s take you through how Tiffany went from receiving therapy from the VA to help her live without trying to commit suicide, to living a healthy, active, fun and productive life, free from the chronic illnesses that had debilitated her. Up until October 2013 her conditions included: Severe fibromyalgia; arthritis; chronic fatigue; spinal cord and neck injury; peripheral neuropathy; IBS; asthma; cancer; clinical depression; a range of allergies; and so much more. For the full details of her conditions and how she’s healed, watch her testimonial here: PTSD I had Chronic Headaches, pain, depression, IBS, Cancer, Insomnia and Fibromyalgia.

 1. Use the FasterEFT Tapping technique to change the references held in the subconscious that result in problems in all areas of life, including chronic pain and diseases. The FasterEFT tapping technique disrupts the production of the chemicals that cause the feeling of fear, anger, anxiety or any other negative emotion and changes the meaning of that traumatic memory in the subconscious from “fear” or “anger” (or whatever that memory represents) to peace. This will then result in an automatic feeling of peace and satisfaction whenever you reference that memory in the future.

2. Once you’ve learned how to use the FasterEFT tapping technique by watching Robert’s videos on YouTube to free yourself from your immediate chronic conditions and pain, the key is to keep going. You need to take the responsibility by continuing to address traumatic memories, in order to experience complete recovery. Watch how to use the A.R.T. of Change process to address and flip subconscious beliefs that contribute to chronic illnesses. continued to use FasterEFT on her traumatic memories and other stressors.
This is how Tiffany was able to heal her physical body from the incredible range of chronic illnesses she had suffered from for so many years. This is how, two and a half years later she is still  completely pain free and the life of her dreams with her husband and children, without depending on medication.

3. Make a list of all the things you want to change in your life right now. If that seems like it a daunting task, then start by prioritizing what is bothering you the most right now. It could be health, finances, relationships or a combination. You can even split the list into different categories if that makes it more achievable.
The point is to make a list and then start going through the list addressing each one of those problems using the Eutaptics memory reimprinting process. Turn those heartaches into heart waves! Dare to dream about turning your sorrows in joy, because with the Eutaptics memory reimprinting process, it is possible, and that’s exactly what thousands of people have done! Chronic illnesses don’t stand a chance once you make up your mind to do whatever it takes to live free from pain

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Relaxing Sea and Ocean Waves

The peaceful waves of a crystal clear turquoise sea washing the white sands of an exotic tropical beach on a pristine, wild island in Thailand.

Together with the soothing sounds of gentle waves, this video can be used to create an atmosphere of natural peace and tranquility in your home or place of work. It is suitable for relaxation, meditation, sleeping, studying, working, yoga, etc.


Achieving Happiness Without Seeking Success Validation

We’re all used to achieving happiness from external circumstances, events, people and things. We are taught from a very young age to depend on other people’s validation to fuel our own self esteem. Whether this is in the form of compliments, awards, likes, tags, applause. It all depends on how an individual perceives his or her own success validation. True and lasting happiness comes from within yourself, where you are happy, calm and at peace no matter what is happening around you.

If you find yourself unable to resist achieving happiness by seeking outside validation, through social media and things people have written or said about you, and you feel a range of bad feelings as a result, you may want to take back the control.

Why seek Success Validation from the Outside?

There is a reason you feel a compulsion to validate your own self through what other people say and do. And once you pinpoint and resolve that, you will no longer be interested in achieving happiness by curating likes and “hits” on your social media posts. When you’re no longer emotionally affected by the comments of others and thus be able to achieve genuine happiness.

This isn’t about willpower. This is about reimprinting your mind to achieve a more sustainable model of happiness. The reason you’re hooked to seeking success validation by your social media posts, or learning more about what others are saying or thinking about you, is the same reason people do drugs, drink excessive alcohol and watch horror movies. It’s chemical.

Whenever you experience something that makes you feel angry, outraged, indignant, fearful, and any other stressed state, your brain and body are flooded with stress chemicals, such as adrenaline and cortisol.

This is why you feel drawn to experiences that make your body release more of these chemicals. So if getting onto social media or gossiping with someone makes you feel happy, you are receiving a “hit” of that chemical concoction – whether it’s joy, anger, fear, or any other intense state.

This keeps you coming back for more of the same for achieving happiness. In order to break that compulsion, you need to break the pattern. You need to make the conscious decision to achieve success validation without depending on that particular activity. As you do this, the “hit” you get from those particular chemicals will reduce, and so will the compulsion.

Now, in the beginning this can seem almost impossible – because your body and brain are telling you that you need those chemicals. This is exactly how a drug addict feels, so in a way, you’re addicted to achieving happiness from other people and circumstances.This will be experienced as a physical compulsion – and the conscious mind will then apply logic and reason to try to make sense of these compulsions.

You may find yourself coming up with a range of reasons why it’s okay (perhaps even necessary) to expose yourself to this stuff that doesn’t feel good. There is a way to take this compulsion away – quickly and effectively, using Eutaptics – so that you naturally are not interested in the things you know are detrimental to your well-being and your time management.

A list of ways to avoid seeking success validation:

1. Social media is a wonderful way to keep in contact with friends and family; but it can also be detrimental to those who simply can’t pull themselves away from it. Scientific research into social media addiction has shown that Facebook is the most addictive. There are several reasons for this, including the fact that it allows the user to talk about themselves.  Cut down on the time you spend on Facebook or other social media platforms. Take it slow, instead of being on social media for 5 hours a day, slowly reduce 30 mins every other day. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying social media in moderation; however, if you find it’s affecting how you feel, or impacting on areas of your life in a negative way, it’s time to make a change. Fortunately, there is a way to break this addiction fairly easily and without needing to go “cold turkey”.

2. Does achieving happiness mean needing to comment or reply to comments on videos, posts, pictures or anything else? If you find yourself unable to resist reading stuff that other people have written, and feeling a range of bad feelings as a result, you may want to take back control. This is not about willpower and dragging yourself away; there is a reason you’re feeling this compulsion, and when you resolve that, you will no longer be interested never mind feel emotionally affected by the comments of others.

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Calming video of Cabo San Lucas

Sometimes, I imagine myself sitting on a beach, the warm sun bathing my face as I listen to the water greet the shoreline. I instantly feel the stress leave my body as the water recedes and I feel at one with the earth, with myself and it feels good. I go to my happy place a lot and videos like this help me escape.  Enjoy!