Jealousy And Self Confidence Can't Live In The Same House

I felt led to write about a passionate emotion that has plagued everyone at least once in their life and that is "jealousy"!

Oh yes, that green eyed monster that rears it's ugly head when self doubt, insecurity and fear oozes into our lives!

I had a conversation years ago with someone who felt jealousy was a "positive" emotion and that it was a way of expressing love for your spouse or partner.
They were taken aback when I whole heartedly disagreed!

Jealousy is based on fear, the fear of losing something or someone. Over a prolonged period of time, that fear will eat away at your relationship like rust on a car. Before you know it, the relationship becomes toxic, spirals out of control and eventually disintegrates.

The law of attraction states: "What you think about, you bring about" - one of my favorite quotes that I apply to my daily thoughts.

The more you think about jealousy and everything that means to you in your life right now, the more situations you will attract that creates more jealousy. It becomes a visicious cycle, one that you need to stop - TODAY!

Prolonged fear also leads to disease in the body. It shows up as tension, anxiety, nervousness, worry, doubt, insecurity and unworthiness.

We must reprogram our fears and replace them with faith so that our bodies don't deteriorate, leaving us sick and disease ridden - have no doubt, fear will eat away at your body just like rust on a car!

Replace that fear with love for yourself!
You can do that by stopping the criticism, stop the self loathing, stop the need to control others!

I have written a tapping script that may help you through this process.

If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page.

It will provide you with everything you need to know!

As always, please change the words to fit your current situation

Karate chop point:

"Even though I am consumed with jealousy, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

"Even though I have always been a very jealous person, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”

"Even though I don't know if I want to let go of this feeling, I love who I am anyway"

Round One:

EB: All this jealousy
SE: It's all I think about every day
UE: I don't like feeling this way
UN: My head tells me it is wrong
CH: But I don't know if I want to let go
CB: I won't be in control if I let this jealousy go
UA: What would happen to us if I let this feeling go
HD: Being in control is what I do
WR: I am so scared of what might happen if I let this go

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**

Round Two:

EB: I know these feelings are wrong
SE: I am open to looking at this situation differently
UE: Maybe if I relaxed and didn't push so hard
UN: What would happen if I chose to be more trusting?
CH: I may find some self confidence once and for all
CB: I know jealousy and self confidence can't co-exist in a healthy relationship
UA: I might be surprised how good I feel if I let this jealousy go
HD: I could focus on strengthening our relationsip, instead of tearing it apart
WR: My body will thank me for turning this around!

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**

Round Three:

EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to all these jealous feelings
SE: I love knowing I can move beyond this
UE: What a liberating feeling
UN: I choose to focus my energy in a more positive direction
CH: I choose to relax
CB: And go with the flow
UA: I just kicked that green eyed monster to the curb once and for all
HD: I am feeling more peace, calm and clarity now
WR: I love who I am and what I am becoming!

**Take a final deep breath and repeat as necessary**

Round Four:

EB: It's time to let it go
SE: Let it go
UE: Let it go
UN: It's safe to let it go
CH: I'm safe
CB: All this hurt, sadness, betrayal and grief
UA: It's safe to let it all go
HD: I'm ready to let it go
WR: I'm ready to take this positive step in my relationship!

Showering you with blessings of trust and self confidence!
Cindy Selvaggio Shumaker


  1. Love this article! The movie "The Secret" is a must see its about the laws of attraction. Thanks for posting it!!

  2. Susie, I LOVE "The Secret"! Haven't watched it for awhile, but I need to very soon!