Tell Me Yes, Tell Me No - Tell Me Quick I Have To Go!

We've all experienced it at some point in life

What about rejection of your goals and dreams?
Have you ever had someone steal your thunder, pop your balloon, flat out squash your dreams?

Didn't feel good, did it?

Since I was in my teens, I've always had an entrepreneurial spirit, but not everyone saw my vision!

The expectation was to get an education, get a job, work hard, retire with a great pension and live happily ever after!
Right.........that has not worked out well for many people in today's economy.

As far back as I could remember, I always had my head buried in motivational books. Zig Ziglar and Napoleon Hill became my mentors and still are today.

Those books instilled in me the power of dreams and filled me with hope of a better future!
They literally changed my view of life!

Along this road of self discovery, I found much rejection which stopped me in my tracks at different times.
How could people stomp on my dreams when they were supposed to be my friend?

What I didn't comprehend until recently was why those closest to me couldn't see what I saw when presented with an opportunity of bettering themselves.
Why couldn't they think outside the box and see the bigger picture of what life had to offer?

Then I discovered something that made it all very clear!

Many times people were afraid of MY success because it made them feel like a failure. I learned that the negative thoughts and words they vomited all over me was about THEM, not about me! It was a way of protecting their ego.

That has been the best lesson I've learned in life

So now, when I share my vision of a great opportunity with friends and family, I am not attached to the outcome of our conversaton.
If they get it GREAT, but if they don't I move on to others who will.... "tell me yes or tell me no, tell me quick I have to go!" NEXT!!

I never absorb rejection or the negative vibrations because that cuts off the flow of good things into my life.
Letting go and moving on will expand my life, expand my circle of friends and explode my business success in ways I could have never imagined!

So next time you share your dreams, visons or business opportunity with others and they don't get it, don't take it personally, just let it go and say NEXT!

To help you jump start that thought, I wrote a tapping script to help you handle rejection in a positive way!

If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!

As always, please change the words to fit your current situation

Karate chop point:

"Even though I hate all this rejection, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”
"Even though getting a "no" doesn't feel good, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though they just don't get it, I love what I am doing and I will not give up”

Round One:

EB: All this rejection
SE: They just don't seem to get it
UE: They look at me like I'm crazy
UN: Is it even registering in their brains?
CH: My family and friends are the worst
CB: They just don't get it
UA: Why can't they see the vision?
HD: It seems like they don't want me to succeed
WR: Rejection just doesn't feel good, especially when it comes from them!

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**

Round Two:

EB: Maybe I shouldn't take this so personally
SE: They don't know what they don't know
UE: I can't allow myself to get pulled down by their negative responses
UN: What if this is all about THEM and has nothing to do with me
CH: Maybe they don't want to support what I do because it makes them feel bad
CB: Subconsciously it might make them feel like a failure
UA: I can't get hung up on their hang ups!
HD: I have dreams and goals to pursue
WR: And I'll be darned if they are going to steal those from me!

** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**

Round Three:

EB: It feels better knowing they aren't rejecting me and what I have to offer
SE: They are protecting themselves from a sense of failure
UE: I choose to forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to all these feelings of rejection in my past
UN: I am ready to take charge and move on
CH: So....tell me yes or tell me no
CB: Just tell me quick, I have to go!
HD: YES!!! I am feeling more confident than I have in a long time
WR: I am ready to build my business and live my dreams starting right now!

**Take a final deep breath and repeat as necessary**

If you like this script, I have more available in my e-book "Tapping from A-Z" available on my website. It contains 51 tapping scripts one for each letter of the alphabet:

•a is for anger
•b is for backpain
•c is for clutter
•d is for dental anxiety, etc

I wrote this e-book in 2009, before I added the "WR" wrist point but you can modify as you wish.

I am running a special on the book right now for $15 (orig: $22.99)

Here is the link:

Any questions or concerns, please email me at:

Wishing you a rejection free future!
Cindy (Selvaggio) Shumaker


  1. Food for Thought....a good read....I will chew on this a bit and be back soon....Thank You !!!

  2. Thank you! I recently started as an Independent consultant for Biltmore Inspirations, and have seen this type of rejection already. I won't let it stop me and I plan on rereading this column when I get down. Hope it's ok to share:)
    Julie Jenkins

  3. Love this...
    thank you for your words of encouragement.
    I have experienced this my whole life...thank u for helping me see to the truth.

  4. Julie, it is absolutely fine if you share - in fact I want you to!

    Don't give others the power to bring you down. They are the ones with the issue, not you! Keep your eye on the goal and move forward with confidence!

    To your success,

  5. Perfect timing for me today - this was the miracle I was looking for, today especially - I sincerely thank you!

  6. Meli,

    You are so welcome!
    I have experienced it too and it has been a growing experience for me to overcome that negativity.

    My life is so much better for it!

    You keep focused as well! Don't let anyone steal your dreams!


  7. Anonymous, you are so very welcome!
    Never stop believing in miracles!

    Blessings, Cindy

  8. Hi there,

    I can related every word you said to my own self.

    Yes,I will continue to believe in myself. Thank you!!