I was reading an article by Mike Robbins recently about blame and it prompted me to think about how often we play the victim and blame others in our day to day lives.
I often watch conversations unfold at work about situations that did not play out as they should have.
For whatever reason, these events did not have a positive outcome, and people immediately started pointing fingers and placing blame.
When you blame and assume the victim role, you don't have to make changes, you don't have to be a leader, you don't have to look within yourself for ways to be proactive instead of reactive - you don't have to take responsibility!
What would happen if we stepped up to the plate and put an end to blame? What would happen if we took responsibility for our actions and our reactions? What would our lives look like?
If we let go of blame, it allows us to take control, to feel freedom from negative emotions, to finally take the first step of healing and moving forward!
Look at your life and ask yourself if you are playing the victim, if you are blaming others so you don't have to take responsibility.
Who are you blaming right now?
How different would your life look if you took back control?
Empower yourself today and let it go, let it go, let it go!
Come out, come out where ever you are....
Last week, one of my dear friends was unpacking boxes from a recent move when she discovered that 17 pieces were missing from a very sentimental collection she had acquired over the years.
Those pieces were a connection to her past, to her childhood, to her grandmother who had passed away.
She had moved several times in the last several years and the possibilities of where they could be were endless. Her mind raced as she traced her journeys, the places she had lived and the people who might have come into contact with them.
She was beside herself wondering what could have happened to her prized possessions, the thought literally made her sick!
Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you couldn’t find something? It might have been your car keys, your wallet, your pet or worse yet, a loved one?
The sheer panic of the unknown is worse than facing the truth and moving forward in whatever direction needs to be taken.
In order to think straight, you need to maintain a sense of calm. You have to take the emotional charge or zing out of the situation.
Once that is achieved, you think more rationally, enabling you to make decisions in regards to the course of action you need to take. Or it enables you to sit back and let the situation unfold if you have no control over the immediate circumstances.
So, how do you remove that emotional zing? How do you remain calm in a situation that has your mind and heart racing?
The following tapping script will help calm your nerves in any situation that leaves you feeling panicked.
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can and repeat as often as necessary to get the desired results.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea where my ________ is, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though my heart is racing, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I am in a state of panic and I have no idea what has happened to my ______, I love myself and all these emotions”
Round One:
EB: I can’t find my _______
SE: I am so upset
UE: I can’t find _______ anywhere
UN: I am worried
CH: Where could my _____ be located?
CB: My heart is racing and I feel like crying
UA: I can’t think straight
HD: My head feels like it is about to explode
WR: Oh please help me find my _________
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: What if someone else has my _______?
SE: Are they loving it as much as I did?
UE: Or are they abusing it?
UN: The thought makes me sick
CH: I want my ______ back
CB: But I don’t know where it is
UA: I realize this is out of my control right now
HD: I have to trust that whoever has my __________ will return it to me soon
WR: Or at least love and respect it like I did
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this panic
SE: I need to take a deep breath and relax a little
UE: Maybe Archangel Chamuel can help reunite me with my __________
UN: He’s been known to help reduce stress when worried about losing something
CH: “ Dear Archangel Chamuel, thank you for guiding me to find my ______”
CB: Divine guidance is always the best
UA: I’m feeling a little better about this now
HD: I choose to relax and trust in a higher power
WR: I am feeling calm, confident and peaceful now…….
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea where my ________ is, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though my heart is racing, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I am in a state of panic and I have no idea what has happened to my ______, I love myself and all these emotions”
Round One:
EB: I can’t find my _______
SE: I am so upset
UE: I can’t find _______ anywhere
UN: I am worried
CH: Where could my _____ be located?
CB: My heart is racing and I feel like crying
UA: I can’t think straight
HD: My head feels like it is about to explode
WR: Oh please help me find my _________
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: What if someone else has my _______?
SE: Are they loving it as much as I did?
UE: Or are they abusing it?
UN: The thought makes me sick
CH: I want my ______ back
CB: But I don’t know where it is
UA: I realize this is out of my control right now
HD: I have to trust that whoever has my __________ will return it to me soon
WR: Or at least love and respect it like I did
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this panic
SE: I need to take a deep breath and relax a little
UE: Maybe Archangel Chamuel can help reunite me with my __________
UN: He’s been known to help reduce stress when worried about losing something
CH: “ Dear Archangel Chamuel, thank you for guiding me to find my ______”
CB: Divine guidance is always the best
UA: I’m feeling a little better about this now
HD: I choose to relax and trust in a higher power
WR: I am feeling calm, confident and peaceful now…….
**Take another deep breath and repeat as necessary**
To find more information on Archangel Chamel, visit this article by Doreen Virtue: http://www.healyourlife.com/author-doreen-virtue/2010/10/wisdom/inspiration/did-you-lose-something
Mirror Mirror on the wall.....
I confess I hate to shop! Yes, I am a woman and I hate to shop!
I needed to buy a new bathing suit recently, something I hadn’t shopped for in several years. There was a great sale last week, so I bit the bullet and drove to the mall knowing this was going to rank right up there with a root canal!
I found several racks with so many choices I didn’t know where to start. I gathered into my arms what looked great on the rack, keeping in mind my body was a little fleshier than the rack….ok….a LOT fleshier.
I sought out the nearest dressing room that didn’t have a long line of women and surprisingly that day, there was no line! Woo hoo, maybe it wasn’t going to be as bad as I had anticipated!
I entered the dressing room, stood in front of the mirror and it hit me…..I remembered why I hated shopping. Fluorescent lights were NOT a girl’s best friend! Ugh!
As I stood there analyzing every bump and bulge, I started to think about how women are so hard on themselves. The negative self talk is horrible. If I talked about my friends the way I talked about my body, I wouldn’t have any friends!
We need to be kinder to ourselves and find a way to accept our bodies.
The negative self talk runs like a virus in our head every time we look in the mirror. We have been doing it for so long, it has become a bad habit - we do it subconsciously.
We need to reprogram our self talk and stop the body hate!
"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the beholder is you, then it's really up to you to see yourself beautiful! "
The following tapping script will help you turn off the negative talk – start loving yourself today. If you don’t, no one else will!
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I don’t like what I see in the mirror, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t like the number on the scale, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I hate the way my ______ looks, I choose to accept my body today”
Round One:
EB: I don’t like what I see
SE: I hate my _______
UE: Too many lumps, bumps and bulges
UN: My clothes never fit right
CH: I feel fat/ugly/skinny
CB: The mirror is not my friend
UA: I can’t believe I have let myself get like this
HD: I’m a prisoner of my own body
WR: Someone let me out!!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: All this body hate can’t be good
SE: I want to learn to appreciate my body
UE: The negative self talk has gone on long enough
UN: This is a hard habit to break
CH: I would like to turn it around starting today
CB: I will start by finding one thing I like about myself
UA: Ok… I really like my ________
HD: I wonder how I would feel if I appreciated one thing about myself every day
WR: Good people come in all shapes and sizes!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this body hate
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am and what I see
UE: After all, this body is the same one that allows me to function every day
UN: I couldn’t go to work, if my body decided it was going to go on strike until I started appreciating it
CH: I better start being more grateful for everything my body does for me
CB: I am starting to feel a lot better about who I am
UA: I deserve to be healthy and happy
HD: Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the prettiest girl of all?
WR: I am!!!
I needed to buy a new bathing suit recently, something I hadn’t shopped for in several years. There was a great sale last week, so I bit the bullet and drove to the mall knowing this was going to rank right up there with a root canal!
I found several racks with so many choices I didn’t know where to start. I gathered into my arms what looked great on the rack, keeping in mind my body was a little fleshier than the rack….ok….a LOT fleshier.
I sought out the nearest dressing room that didn’t have a long line of women and surprisingly that day, there was no line! Woo hoo, maybe it wasn’t going to be as bad as I had anticipated!
I entered the dressing room, stood in front of the mirror and it hit me…..I remembered why I hated shopping. Fluorescent lights were NOT a girl’s best friend! Ugh!
As I stood there analyzing every bump and bulge, I started to think about how women are so hard on themselves. The negative self talk is horrible. If I talked about my friends the way I talked about my body, I wouldn’t have any friends!
We need to be kinder to ourselves and find a way to accept our bodies.
The negative self talk runs like a virus in our head every time we look in the mirror. We have been doing it for so long, it has become a bad habit - we do it subconsciously.
We need to reprogram our self talk and stop the body hate!
"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the beholder is you, then it's really up to you to see yourself beautiful! "
The following tapping script will help you turn off the negative talk – start loving yourself today. If you don’t, no one else will!
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I don’t like what I see in the mirror, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t like the number on the scale, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I hate the way my ______ looks, I choose to accept my body today”
Round One:
EB: I don’t like what I see
SE: I hate my _______
UE: Too many lumps, bumps and bulges
UN: My clothes never fit right
CH: I feel fat/ugly/skinny
CB: The mirror is not my friend
UA: I can’t believe I have let myself get like this
HD: I’m a prisoner of my own body
WR: Someone let me out!!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: All this body hate can’t be good
SE: I want to learn to appreciate my body
UE: The negative self talk has gone on long enough
UN: This is a hard habit to break
CH: I would like to turn it around starting today
CB: I will start by finding one thing I like about myself
UA: Ok… I really like my ________
HD: I wonder how I would feel if I appreciated one thing about myself every day
WR: Good people come in all shapes and sizes!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this body hate
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am and what I see
UE: After all, this body is the same one that allows me to function every day
UN: I couldn’t go to work, if my body decided it was going to go on strike until I started appreciating it
CH: I better start being more grateful for everything my body does for me
CB: I am starting to feel a lot better about who I am
UA: I deserve to be healthy and happy
HD: Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the prettiest girl of all?
WR: I am!!!
Start your day over whenever you want!
We all have days when we don’t want to get out of bed; some of us more than others.
The important thing to remember is that no matter how bad you feel, no matter what time of the day it is, you have the choice to start it all over.
The universe always hears and responds to our vibrations and it’s up to us to choose our feelings.
At any given moment you can choose to focus on something that makes you feel good, listen to some music, focus on nature, read an inspirational quote, use aroma therapy or find some other way to raise your vibration.
What are you feeling right now? Do you want to stay in that feeling or do you want to feel better?
Make the choice to start over right now. Do whatever it takes to get back on track.
The following tapping script may jump start your day or help you to start it over!
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I feel like a big grump, I accept these feelings today ”
"Even though I don’t want to face the world, I appreciate who I am right now”
Round One:
EB: I feel grumpy
SE: I want to pull the covers over my head
UE: It’s too early to face reality
UN: This is not going to be a good day
CH: I know I’m not supposed to be this moody
CB: But I really don’t feel like doing anything about it
UA: It takes energy to be in a good mood
HD: Doesn’t it?
WR: I don’t have that much energy right now
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I know if I don’t turn this around soon, my day is never going to get better
SE: Maybe I can find one thing to be grateful for right now
UE: Well, I’m alive and breathing, so God gave me another chance today
UN: I guess I need to be grateful for that
CH: I better not waste the gift he gave me
CB: I choose to focus on things that make me feel better
UA: I feel so good when I think about ______
HD: I am starting to feel a little better
WR: This day might not be so bad after all
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to my grumpiness today
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am at this very moment
UE: I love appreciating myself and others in my life
UN: My mood is starting to lift
CH: I feel like I might be able to conquer this day after all
CB: I will start by listening to my favorite music
UA: Music makes my heart smile
HD: I am so proud that I am turning this around
WR: I deserve to be happy!
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