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Tapping and Cancer

I've known for years that chronic stress can lead to disease including cancer.  

My personal journey to stay healthy started about 15 years ago after my divorce. I knew if I didn't deal with my negative emotions, they would eat away at my body over time.

That journey lead to yoga, meditation and EFT or tapping. I've been practicing tapping since 2008 with many positive results. 

The following article on how tapping can help fight cancer is very informative and I am glad to see tapping getting the recognition it deserves!

"You may know that stress reduction is vital to maintaining health and fighting cancer, but just where do you begin to create true emotional health? Luckily, you might not have to spend hours in a therapist’s chair in order to heal the emotional wounds that could be standing between you and cancer healing and prevention.

Emotional Freedom Technique (also known as EFT or Tapping) is a fast, easy, and effective way to reduce anxiety, clear emotional blocks, and become more peaceful and focused in all areas of your life."

Read the rest if the article here:
https://thetruthaboutcancer.com/emotional-freedom-technique-cancer/

Who would I be without all this fear

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I was talking to a close friend today who has hit another big road bump in life.
Challenges are not new to her, in fact, they have become her way of life and physical pain had set in once again.

As we chatted she said she needed God to give her a miracle, it was the only thing that she had left.  

I told her she had to let go, hand it over in faith. So what do I do, she asked. Do I have to say out loud "I'm letting go, you take over!" How do I summon help she asked, just HOW do I let go?

I reassured her that he had already heard her pleas, but she is blocking his answers because she can't stay quiet. She can't quiet her mind long enough to hear his divine answer because she is living in a state of fear.

"Who would I be without all this fear? " she asked. "That's all I've ever known!" 

She had to admit that her body was probably in the pain that it was because her adrenals were shot from constantly being in a fearful state.

I think we've all felt this way at some point our lives, but if we don't quiet the fear based monkey chatter in our heads, we can't hear our intuitive voice or answers from the divine. I like to compare this to being at a deafening concert. People try to talk, but can't hear a thing because the music is too loud.
God tries to talk, but we can't hear a darn thing because the chatter is too loud in our minds.

We want to stay in control, white knuckling the steering wheel of life, making sure we don't veer off course when in fact we need to go down a different path. An unfamiliar, unknown path  makes us feel uncomfortable and that's when panic sets in.

That is the exact time we should take a step back, take a deep breath and know that our lives are "recalculating", to keep us moving forward towards the destination that is meant to be.

So how do we let go, how do we shut off that fight or flight part of our brain? 

I have always found tapping a great resource for quieting my mind, calming my hypersensitive spirit so I can regroup and remove the negative feelings that are keeping me from moving forward with confidence and clarity. 

Here is a tapping script that may help you surrender....

If you have never tapped before, I suggest you learn the basics first. Familiarize yourself with the tapping points and how to tap here.

There are oodles of videos on You Tube as well.

Tap on the Karate Chop point and say:

Even though I don't know how to let go, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am anyway.  
Even though my body hurts from worrying so much, I appreciate all the messages my body is sending me. 
Even though I have no idea what lies ahead of me and I am scared, I love and accept myself anyway

Now start your first round of tapping starting with the eyebrow point

EB: All this fear  
SE: I need a miracle right now  
UE: It's all I have left  
UN: I'm so scared  
CH: Time is running out  
CB: I don't know what to do  
UA: I need answers  
HD: I have to stay in control  
WR: It's the only thing that makes me feel better

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I don't know how to let go  
SE: Maybe I don't want to let go  
UE: I mean, fear is all I've known  
UN: Who would I be without all these fears  
CH: It's how I've gotten through life  
CB: It's how I've gotten where I am today  
UA: Look how that has worked for me so far  
HD: My life is exactly what I have attracted  
WR: With every fearful thought

Take a deep breath and continue, but getting a little more detailed (replace my words with your words/fears)

EB: Maybe I need to calm down
SE: Maybe I can find a way to let go  
UE: As scary as that is  
UN: I know there has to be a better way  
CH: Better than praying for miracles  
CB: It would be nice to know  
UA: Someone else is in charge  
HD: It would take some pressure off me  
WR: Pressure my body doesn't need

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to all this fear  
SE: I think I'm ready to hand my fears over  
UE: I am ready to relax  
UN: And know that all my needs will be taken care of  
CH: That everything is unfolding exactly as it should  
CB: In the right way  
UA: I want to live a carefree life
HD: I am willing to do whatever it takes to turn this around  
WR:I am ready to let it all go

Take a deep breath and continue

EB:I choose to let go starting today  
SE: All this fear  
UE: All the negative feelings that I have felt all these years  
UN: It's time to let it go  
CH: It's safe to let it go  
CB: I'm safe  
UA: All this fear  
HD: Melting away  
WR: Letting it all go

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: Let it go  
SE: Let it go  
UE: It's safe to let it all go  
UN: I'm starting to feel so much better  
CH: I am starting to relax  
CB: I am feeling calmer  
UA: My heart is feeling lighter
HD: I can breathe easier  
WR: I can wake up knowing everything will be just fine!

Take a deep breath and say PEACE

Continue to use this script over and over, replacing my words with words that resonate with you, that feels true for you. You must give yourself permission to feel your emotions and change the words to fit those emotions and mental pictures you hold inside of you.

Tapping does work if you use it consistently and persistently

Showering you with blessings of calmer days and arriving at the perfect destination!

Love, Cindy

It is uncommon for a person who feels loved to project hate

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We all carry the same baggage

Sometimes we feel all alone with our problems, but the truth is, we all lug the same stuff around, they're just disguised differently.

At times, the load gets so heavy, we feel crushed by the burden of carrying our stuff from relationship to relationship or job to job. If we don't find a way to purge or let go of our stuff, we find unhealthy ways to cope.

We drink it away, we eat it, we gamble it, we shop it, we sleep it away....but do we really?

When we sober up, or wake up or rack up debt on our credit cards, our problems still exist, we just found a convenient way to numb them for awhile.

Until we successfully find a way to "let go", our problems will eat us up.
Unsuccessful coping mechanisms leads to self destructive behavior which leads to long term health issues which eventually eat us from the inside out.

Over time, our bodies will develop chronic diseases which just exacerbates our worry and piles more baggage on top of what we are already lugging around.

We must find ways to get to the core of our issues, and yank them out by the roots, like the nasty weeds that they are!
Until we do that, we will continue to mentally and physically decay.

I challenge you to take that first brave step and peek inside that dark heavy load you've been carrying around. It may be moldy and somewhat stinky in there, but your stuff has had time to vegetate and fester.  Be brave and rip it open anyway!

Get honest with yourself, take control and use a tool like tapping to eradicate each stinky emotional burden you've been carrying! Doing so will create a vacuum of attracting exciting new experiences that you never thought possible!

Showering you with blessings of lighter loads and brighter days!

Panic attacks

I have never suffered from panic attacks, but I've had friends and family that have suffered from this crippling emotional state.

The fearful feelings of dying, of losing it in public, of being embarrassed, just trying to keep it all under control when you are falling apart inside.....it is paralyzing and crippling!

Panic attacks are created in an effort to keep you safe based on internal references from past experiences. You may not know where they come from, you just know how you feel inside and that alone is a good place to start.

The first step in overcoming these attacks are by writing down everything about your attacks. 

What are they about, your biggest fears, how do you feel inside when you have them, where do you feel them in your body, what triggers them and then start releasing what you don't want...the memories, experiences, people and feelings that might be driving theses attacks.

Once you have the list complete, you start tapping on each one, releasing the emotional charges contained within.

For example, if you had a bad experience at the grocery store when you were a child, you may have panic attacks every time you go to the grocery store as an adult.

In order to clear these negative emotions, you have to neutralize the internal references that keep you a prisoner today.

So...you want to recall the event as best as you can and start tapping on each aspect of that grocery store memory  until you no longer feel it in your body.

If you don't have a specific event or memory, just tune into how you feel. Start tapping using my words below and slowly, your subconscious should start revealing memories that you need to clear to heal.

Take responsibility for your body and your mental health by tuning into your emotions, your feelings and keep yourself safe. Don't do anything that doesn't feel right for you. You are always in control!

If you have never tapped before, I suggest you learn the basics first. Familiarize yourself with the tapping points and how to tap here.

There are oodles of videos on You Tube as well.

Tap on the Karate Chop point and say:

Even though I feel like a mess inside, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though my heart feels likes its beating out of my chest, I accept this feeling as a message from my body that I have some emotional work to do
Even though I feel paralyzed sometimes and I'm afraid to move, I accept this feeling and everything it represents in my life.

Now start your first round of tapping starting with the eyebrow point

EB: This fearful feeling
SE: This crippling feeling
UE: I don't want to move right now
UN: I'm afraid of what might happen
CH: My beating heart
CB: My sweaty hands
UA: All these thoughts racing through my head
HD: I hate feeling this way
WR: I feel like a prisoner in my own body

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I don't think I can ever overcome these feelings
SE: I've had them as long as I can remember
UE: They've become a part of my routine
UN: Of who I am
CH: I don't know how I would act if I was calm
CB: Would I feel safe?
UA: Would I feel better if I changed how I looked at my world?
HD: Is it even possible
WR: I know I am not weak, I want to feel stronger than this

Take a deep breath and continue, but getting a little more detailed (replace my words with your words/fears)

EB: All this fear driving to the grocery store
SE: I have to go, but my heart is beating like crazy
UE: All this anxiety in my chest
UN: All this constricted breathing
CH: All the past memories
CB: Stored in my chest
UA: I have become a prisoner of my thoughts
HD: I know I am doing this to myself
WR: But I don't know how to change it


Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I know I am stuck in the past
SE: In my mind, I know there is nothing to be afraid of
UE: But my heart feels differently
UN:I know I must change these feelings
CH: And I think I am ready for that change
CB: I want to feel free again
UA: I want to live a carefree life
HD: I am willing to do whatever it takes to turn this around
WR:I am ready to let it all go

Take a deep breath and continue

EB:I choose to forgive myself and anyone else that created these panic attacks
SE: All this anxiety, all this fear
UE: All the negative feelings that I have felt all these years
UN: It's time to let it go
CH: It's safe to let it go
CB: I'm safe
UA: All this fear, all this anxiety
HD: Melting away
WR: Letting it all go

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I am tired of the melt downs
SE: I will get through this
UE: I know these fearful feelings are temporary
UN: So I am choosing to let them go
CH: One thought at a time
CB: I am stronger than I realize
UA: And I will overcome this
HD: One baby step at a time
WR: I am choosing to let this all go
Take a deep breath and continue

EB: Let it go
SE: Let it go
UE: It's safe to let it all go
UN: I'm starting to feel so much better
CH: I am starting to relax
CB: I am feeling calmer
UA: My heart is feeling lighter
HD: I can breathe easier
WR:I love that I am in control now

Take a deep breath and say PEACE

Continue to use this script over and over, replacing my words with words that resonate with you, that feels true for you. You must give yourself permission to feel your emotions and change the words to fit those emotions and mental pictures you hold inside of you.

Tapping does work if you use it consistently and persistently

Showering you with blessings of calmer days
Cindy

Let's Make A Magical Connection

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that left you feeling hollow, empty and emotionally disconnected?

I have and it felt very one sided. Soon into the conversation I could tell this person had other things on their mind and that they were totally uninterested because they were bored, preoccupied  or plainly didn't care.

I was listening to a TED talk recently and the speaker was addressing how to magically connect with people. Although I had never given it much thought before, it made me think of how I felt when I didn't feel listened to.

When we engage in conversation with friends, family or random strangers, we have to get ourselves out of the way in order to connect with them on an emotional and/or spiritual level, a level that makes them walk away from the conversation feeling good about themselves and their interaction with us.

                                                     

How do we get ourselves out of the way?
What does that mean?

It means to put down our phones, stop watching the TV, make eye to eye contact and connect. You may not know what to say or how to respond, but more than likely, the person talking  just wants to be heard, to be validated. 

Many times they aren't looking to you for solutions or answers, they just want to be heard.
When you actively listen, they feel like you care, like what they are saying matters.

So put your agenda, your worries or anything else that is distracting you aside and focus on the person in front of you.

If you are someone who struggles with awkward conversations or don't  feel like a good communicator, we've all been there at some point in our lives and it's ok.

It's time to rewire your brain and to transform your interactions to better connect with humanity! 

The best way to rewire or reprogram your thinking is with tapping and I have written a script to help you

 If you have never tapped before, I suggest you learn the basics first. Familiarize yourself with the tapping points and how to tap here.
There are oodles of videos on You Tube as well.

 Tap on the Karate Chop point and say:

Even though I struggle with emotional connections, I love who I am anyway

Even though I seem to get caught up in my own thoughts and have a difficult time focusing on others, I am open to the possibility that I can change that

Even though I feel awkward in certain conversations, I know this is normal, but I am willing to approach these situations differently in the future.

EB: I sometimes struggle connecting with others

SE: I get anxious about how I'm going to respond

UE: What if I can't find the words?

UN:  I've done that before

CH: I didn't mean to, I just froze

CB: I'm just not good at personal connections

UA: I have so many things running through my mind

HD: That I lose focus

WR: All these awkward conversations

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I want to be a better communicator

SE: I want to connect with people, especially my friends and family

UE: Maybe I can learn how to focus on them

UN: And less on my own thoughts

CH: After all, the conversation is about them

CB: Not about me

UA: They are important, everyone is important

HD: Everyone has a story, good or bad

WR: And I need to listen

EB: Maybe I can learn something by listening to others

SE: Maybe if I relax and just be myself

UE: I can enjoy conversations 

UN: And both of us will feel better

CH: I might learn something new or different about them

CB: They may feel like they matter

UA: I will gain their trust

HD: It will be a win win for both of us

WR: This may be easier than I thought

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I choose to give my full attention to everyone I talk to today

SE: I will look in their eyes and listen

UE: I will put my self in their shoes

UN: And connect with them emotionally and energetically

CH: I will respond in a way that makes them feel heard 

CB: I will make this about them

UA: And not about me

HD: If they want my opinion, they will ask 

WR: I will respond in a caring and loving tone

Take a deep breath and continue

EB:I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to my inability to listen and fully connect

SE: I am choosing to turn this around

UE: I love that there is a way to change the way I connect 

UN: Right now I am listening to my own thoughts

CH: And connecting with myself on a level I never have before

CB: This will make me a better listener

UA: A better communicator

HD: This tapping thing might just work

WR: I am feeling confident
 
Peace! 

Showering you with blessings of close personal connections and meaningful conversations,

Cindy

Letting Go of Negative Self Talk

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Letting go of negative self talk is a topic I am all to familiar with and every now and then I run across an article that inspires me to write a tapping script to help neutralize those thoughts.

As described in "Overcoming Negative Self Talk with a Writing Exercise", self talk is automatic, subtle, comes in forms of short words or images, produces anxiousness and can incite a panic attack. 

It is a bad habit that needs to be reprogrammed.  

The author Aimee White suggested a writing exercise to figure out negative self talk. I loved her idea, but I took that one step further and used those journal notes to tap on my negative thoughts and feelings until they no longer bothered me.

So....what did that look like and where did I start? 

I have been tapping since 2008, so I was well versed in the process of how to tap and how to use my thoughts in the process of self soothing.

If you have never tapped before, I suggest you learn the basics first. Familiarize yourself with the tapping points and how to tap here. There are oodles of videos on You Tube as well.

The following script is very basic as it deals with the act of negative self talk, nothing specific to you and your situation. 

Before you start tapping, I want you to write down in bullet points all the thoughts that are going through your head right now, the ones you can't get rid of. Where do you feel it in your body? Is your heart pounding, does your head hurt, your back ache? Describe what you are feeling - if it's pain, is it a sharp pain, ache, stabbing? Be as descriptive as you can. 

Now give this situation a number. Rate it from 1-10 with 10 being the worst feelings, thoughts or pain. 

After you tap on the words outlined below, I want you to rate it again. Has the number come down? Have the feelings changed? Has the pain moved or changed? Everyone is different and will get different results. There is no right or wrong here, so jot down everything that you are feeling. 

Once you have done that, I want you to take a deep breath and start tapping on the Karate Chop point and say:

"Even though I am overwhelmed with all of these thoughts swirling around in my head, I love and respect myself anyway"

"Even though I am driving myself crazy with all of these imaginary scenarios, I honor this part of me anyway"

"Even though I know I shouldn't do this to myself but I don't know how to stop, I love that I am taking the necessary steps to turn this around." 

EB: All these thoughts

SE: Rushing through my head

UE: Causing me to worry

UN: All of these "What if's"

CH: That's all I can think about

CB: It is consuming me

UA: I just keep hitting the "replay" button in my mind

HD: I can't seem to move forward

WR: What's wrong with me?

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I don't understand why I do this to myself

SE: I know it doesn't do any good

UE: It doesn't solve any problems

UN: It just keeps me stuck

CH: In a place I really don't want to be

CB: So why can't I move on

UA: Why do I torture myself

HD: It feels like self abuse

WR: I wouldn't do this to anyone else, so why do I do it to myself?

Take a deep breath and continue 

EB: I really do want to find a way to turn this around

SE: Maybe it is easier than I thought

UE: Maybe this silly tapping thing actually works

UN: I'm willing to give it a try if it will help calm me down

CH: I will take a deep breath

CB: And close my eyes

UA: I will tap on my negative thoughts 

HD: Each and every one of them

WR: Until they melt away

Take a deep breath and continue  

EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to all these negative thoughts

SE: It is safe to let them go

UE: They serve no purpose

UN: Other than keeping me from moving forward 

CH: This too shall pass

CB: And I will realize that things aren't as bad as I imagined

UA: I am being my own worst enemy

HD: And now it is safe to let it all go

WR: I am so grateful I am finally turning this around

Take a deep breath and continue

EB: I can feel my body relaxing 

SE: I can feel the worry and anxiety start to melt away

UE: I am becoming more calm

UN: The mental stress is fading

CH: The gray cloud is lifting

CB: The sunshine is starting to peek through 

UA: I am starting to feel a lot lighter

HD: This IS easier than I thought

WR: I can really feel a mental shift taking place

Take a deep breath and continue 

EB: It's safe to let this go

SE: All the stress, fear, worry and hopelessness 

UE: It's safe to let them all go

UN: I'm safe

CH: I am more relaxed

CB: I am calmer

UA: I am so happy I learned how to take control of my thoughts and emotions

HD: I am very grateful

WR: Peace

Take a final deep breath and rate your feelings and emotions like you did before you started. What has changed? What is your new number? 

To continue your progress, you will want to tap on the specifics of your situation, your thoughts, your aches and pains. Just talk and tap. 

This is a very forgiving but effective process. Be persistent and consistent for effective results.

 Leave me a comment below and let me know how this worked for you.

Showering you with blessings of peaceful thoughts and calmer tomorrow's! 
 

From Overwhelm To Calm

When was the last time you felt overwhelmed? 

For some people, it happens on a daily basis. Whether it's your job, family, friends or maybe all of them, overwhelm can leave you feeling breathless.

I knew that feeling all too well when I started a new position at work several years ago. I was overwhelmed with new responsibilities, feelings of isolation and helplessness. I wanted to curl up in a fetal position and cry!

If it wasn't for tapping, I don't think I would have made it. I excused myself to the bathroom and tapped away my anxieties more times than I could count!

Nick Ortner from the Tapping Solution has shared a tapping mediation that I wish had been available to me when I was feeling overwhelmed many years ago.

"From Overwhelm to Calm" is a 12 minute audio that is sure to calm you and leave you feeling more peaceful and definitely less stressed!

You can find the audio here: http://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/tapping-meditation-overwhelm-calm/

Happy Tapping!

Should You Forgive Someone Who Harmed You?

Time after time, I hear people say, "I just refuse to forgive them!" 
Yet, I know what holding onto that anger at a cellular level does to the body. The one holding on is the one who suffers the most. 
Anger eats away at the body, at the energy system, at the organs - it is an emotional cancer that will literally eat away at your body.
 In fact, Louise Hay has said in her book "Heal Your Body" that cancer usually develops from deep hurt and long standing resentment.

Every situation is different and the levels of hurt, betrayal, fear, etc varies with each individual. You must find what is comfortable for you and your unique situation.

This article by Sara Staggs from Psych Central is a short but good one. Make sure you read the comments and Sara's answer as she explains more. 


Should You Forgive Someone Who Harmed You? | After Trauma

Negative Thoughts Are Dead Weight

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