Do you have someone in your life that pushes your buttons?
If so, I want to congratulate you because you have been blessed - Yes, very blessed!
A button pusher is someone who annoys you; someone who draws a strong emotional response, usually anger; someone who manipulates you to produce a desired response – THEIR desired response.
A button pusher typically dominates the conversation using sarcasm and their opinion is always the right one!
I bet someone’s name just penetrated your mind! Your blood pressure is probably rising as you hear their voice in your head as you revisit a recent conversation.
That button pusher has been put in your life for a reason. Whether you realize it or not, on an energetic level, they are forcing you to forge ahead. You are being pushed outside your comfort zone to achieve things that you may not have the confidence to do.
When a button pusher starts vomiting their opinion all over you, you immediately feel like you’ve been punched in the gut; they deflate your hopes and dreams.
Button pushers are dream stealers!
Dream stealers are insecure, weak people who don’t have the courage to chase their own dreams. They will do everything they can to discourage you, because your dreams are a threat to them. Your dreams make them feel like they are failures in their own lives or because it is a negative reflection of their relationship with you.
A button pusher will awaken the giant within you! You will start to see what you want more clearly because everything they say goes against every fiber of your being. Your dreams and desires stand at attention in your soul and start marching down the right path. The path of success!!
Be grateful today – Shout “thank you” to your button pusher!
Ironically, they will be the ones who are left in an emotional dust to choke on their own words!
One last thought – if YOU are the button pusher, you might want to take a good hard look in the mirror and ask “why”.
If you are having a difficult time emotionally detaching from a button pusher, you can use the following tapping script to help take the zing out of the situation.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
As always, please change the words to fit your current situation
Karate chop point:
"Even though I am so irritated right now, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though she pushes all my buttons, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me ”
"Even though I am feeling so defeated, I love who I am anyway”
Round One:
EB: I can’t believe she just said that to me!
SE: I am so mad right now
UE: Who does she think she is
UN: She thinks she knows what’s best for me!
CH: She’s supposed to love me
CB: Not pick on me
UA: She told me to get my head out of the clouds
HD: To face reality
WR: What does she know?
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I am so upset
SE: She doesn’t believe in me
UE: And that really hurts
UN: She just doesn’t get it
CH: I know what makes me happy
CB: And it’s NOT her ideas of what I should do
UA: I’ll show her!
HD: I have dreams
WR: She will be so surprised when I am successful
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I choose to forgive her ignorance
SE: I will forgive her as a way of releasing the hold she has had on me
UE: I am in charge of my hopes and dreams
UN: It is all good
CH: I’ll show her!
CB: I am determined to succeed now
UA: There is no stopping me
HD: Watch out world, here I come!
WR: I love that I am in charge and in control of my life! “YES”
Erase your fears today!
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I pictured myself standing in front of it, chalk in hand, writing down my latest fear.
As I stepped back and waited a few minutes, the words started to slowly fade until I couldn’t see them anymore. Were they really gone - gone forever?
I stood there for a few more minutes watching the wall and they never reappeared.
I took a short walk and came back - still not there!
What if I could scribble my fears on the wall every day and slowly watch them disappear?
My mind started to wander, thinking of the possibilities.
Then it hit me – we DO have a wall and it is called GOD!
I AM supposed to hand over all my fears, worries, concerns and doubts to him every day.
I AM supposed to let go and walk in faith that my fears will be erased.
So why is that so difficult?
Maybe it's because I want to actually see the proof; actually watch them disappear. It solidifies the process and makes it real.
Today, I promised myself that I would work on the process of trusting, of letting go, of walking away without looking back for proof.
To help myself ease the process of letting go and trusting GOD, I have written a tapping script that you may find useful as well.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
As always, please change the words to fit your current situation
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have this fear, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I’m scared, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though I have a hard time letting go, I love who I am anyway”
Round One:
EB: This fear
SE: It has been on my mind all day
UE: I have tried to divert my attention and think of other things
UN: But that was only a temporary fix
CH: I want to think more pleasant thoughts
CB: I want to focus on positive ideas
UA: I am still so scared
HD: I wish I knew what the outcome will be
WR: The fear of the unknown is stressing me out
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: This situatuion reminds me of _______ (something from your past that had a negative outcome)
SE: That was a scary time for me
UE: I don’t want to repeat that time in my life
UN: But maybe this time will be different
CH: Maybe the outcome will actually be pleasant
CB: I hadn’t thought of that before
UA: I like this new thought
HD: There is a very good possibility everything may be just fine
WR: I am starting to feel a lot better about this situation
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this fear
SE: I love how I am turning this around
UE: I choose to imagine a picture perfect outcome
UN: My heart is starting to feel lighter
CH: The gray cloud is starting to lift and the sun is starting to peek through
CB: My fear is evaporating like the fog in the first ray of sunshine
UA: I choose to let go!
HD: I am erasing my fear right now...
WR: I feel calm, confident and finally in control!
**Take another deep breath and see if you are feeling any lighter**
I want to push the fast forward button!
What if we had the capability to fast forward through life's challenges and take a peek at the ending?
If we knew the outcomes, we could make better decisions, make better choices and remain in control.
How cool would that be?
Or would it…
I have stared down life’s challenges many times, face to face, eye to eye and the hardest part of the situation was not having all the answers; not knowing which way to turn or which decision was the best.
Looking back, I realize those were the times I had the most personal growth.
If it were not for the gut wrenching, heart breaking, mentally exhausting challenges, I would not be who I am today.
There was freedom in realizing that I wasn’t perfect, that I didn’t have all the answers and that I had no idea how I was going to land on my feet.
The freedom to make mistakes, to fail and to find out what I was made of. The freedom to let go and trust my intuition, to believe in a higher power and most importantly, divine timing!
The freedom to truly live and grow!
Those were the times that blessed me with new opportunities, new surroundings and new acquaintances.
I can say without a doubt, I would not have the friends I do today; I would not have started a blog or an inspirational Facebook page, had I not emotionally touched those pieces of my life’s puzzle.
I am so grateful for the challenges and the uncertainties because they contributed to the richness of my life as it is today!
If you are having challenges and need a little help trusting the process and accepting the fact that this is exactly where you need to be to grow, I have provided a tapping script to help calm nerves and ease emotional turmoil.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
As always, please change the words to fit your current situation
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea what’s going to happen, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t have answers, I love who I am ”
"Even though there is so much uncertainty, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: I have no idea how this is going to turn out
SE: So much to think about
UE: I don’t have all the answers
UN: I am always in control
CH: People look to me for guidance
CB: But I have no idea what that means right now
UA: This is scary
HD: What do I do
WR: I want to push the fast forward button right now
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I really need to take a deep breath and relax
SE: That is so out of character for me
UE: I am the one telling others to relax
UN: I want to trust my intuition
CH: And follow my gut instinct
CB: It’s usually always right
UA: I choose to let go of my need to be perfect right now
HD: And trust in a higher power
WR: This is another instance of divine timing at its best
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I choose to forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this situation
SE: Part of growing and healing is learning to forgive
UE: Wow, that felt great to say!
UN: I love how I am handling this right now
CH: Everything is falling into place as we speak
CB: No need to see the ending
UA: I am trusting the process and embracing the outcome
HD: I am feeling more confident, calm and peaceful
WR: I choose to believe that everything will be OK!
**Take another deep breath and repeat as necessary*
If we knew the outcomes, we could make better decisions, make better choices and remain in control.
How cool would that be?
Or would it…
I have stared down life’s challenges many times, face to face, eye to eye and the hardest part of the situation was not having all the answers; not knowing which way to turn or which decision was the best.
Looking back, I realize those were the times I had the most personal growth.
If it were not for the gut wrenching, heart breaking, mentally exhausting challenges, I would not be who I am today.
There was freedom in realizing that I wasn’t perfect, that I didn’t have all the answers and that I had no idea how I was going to land on my feet.
The freedom to make mistakes, to fail and to find out what I was made of. The freedom to let go and trust my intuition, to believe in a higher power and most importantly, divine timing!
The freedom to truly live and grow!
Those were the times that blessed me with new opportunities, new surroundings and new acquaintances.
I can say without a doubt, I would not have the friends I do today; I would not have started a blog or an inspirational Facebook page, had I not emotionally touched those pieces of my life’s puzzle.
I am so grateful for the challenges and the uncertainties because they contributed to the richness of my life as it is today!
If you are having challenges and need a little help trusting the process and accepting the fact that this is exactly where you need to be to grow, I have provided a tapping script to help calm nerves and ease emotional turmoil.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
As always, please change the words to fit your current situation
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea what’s going to happen, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t have answers, I love who I am ”
"Even though there is so much uncertainty, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: I have no idea how this is going to turn out
SE: So much to think about
UE: I don’t have all the answers
UN: I am always in control
CH: People look to me for guidance
CB: But I have no idea what that means right now
UA: This is scary
HD: What do I do
WR: I want to push the fast forward button right now
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I really need to take a deep breath and relax
SE: That is so out of character for me
UE: I am the one telling others to relax
UN: I want to trust my intuition
CH: And follow my gut instinct
CB: It’s usually always right
UA: I choose to let go of my need to be perfect right now
HD: And trust in a higher power
WR: This is another instance of divine timing at its best
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I choose to forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this situation
SE: Part of growing and healing is learning to forgive
UE: Wow, that felt great to say!
UN: I love how I am handling this right now
CH: Everything is falling into place as we speak
CB: No need to see the ending
UA: I am trusting the process and embracing the outcome
HD: I am feeling more confident, calm and peaceful
WR: I choose to believe that everything will be OK!
**Take another deep breath and repeat as necessary*
Someday my prince will come.....
Over the last several months, I have taken note of the fact that many of my Facebook readers on Calming Your Inner Storm have indicated they are single, lonely or feeling that void in the “love” department and they don’t know how to turn it around.
I want to offer my view point on the subject as it relates to the Law of Attraction.
I know there are thousands if not millions of articles on the art of attracting a soul mate; try googling that topic next time you are bored!
I am going to keep my thoughts short and sweet and provide a tapping script to help solidify the feelings and thoughts necessary for attracting your “knight in shining armor” or your soul mate.
Most people, who are longing for a companion, constantly think about the lack of having a special someone in their life. They may even focus on the negative qualities of their past relationships. That needs to stop!
Remember that you attract what you think about or better put, “thoughts become things”.
If you think that all men are after one thing, then you will attract men that only want one thing. If you think that all the good men are taken, then you will be attracted to men already in committed relationships. If you think that all women want is your money, then you will attract gold diggers – pure and simple – you get what you focus on!
The sooner you take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings, the sooner you will attract what you want and repel what you don’t want.
Today is the day that you are going to turn that stinkin’ thinkin’ around!
The first and most important thing I want you to do is FEEL GOOD - right NOW!
Feeling good raises your vibration and starts attracting better feeling things into your life. Remember…"thoughts become things".
Do whatever it takes to feel good consistently every day. Take a walk, listen to music, paint, read, pet your dog, have coffee with a friend or watch a good movie - just do something that makes you feel good!
Next thing I want you to do is LET GO – let go of the “lack” mindset. The more you focus on what you don’t have, the more you will attract what you don’t have. "I am so lonely" - OK, you will continue to be lonely today, tomorrow, next week, next year. You receive what you declare, pure and simple!
Remember that things will not change overnight, but with consistent positive thoughts and feeling good, the tide will change and more good things will come your way.
I want you to get a sticky note today and write “I am so grateful I have attracted a soul mate that is perfect for me and my lifestyle!” Put that note on your bathroom mirror or somewhere that you will see it every day. Read it out loud with enthusiasm and watch what happens!
Have patience – divine timing is everything!
Here’s a tapping script to help:
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Please change the words to fit your current situation - you might want to attract a princess instead!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea where my soul mate is, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though my heart is lonely, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me”
"Even though I feel like I might be alone forever, I know I don’t need another person to make me feel complete”
Round One:
EB: Where is my knight in shining armor?
SE: I am so lonely right now
UE: I’m afraid I will be single forever
UN: Time is running out
CH: I’m not getting any younger
CB: All the good men are taken
UA: There has to be one more left out there for me
HD: Does he know I am looking for him?
WR: Maybe, just maybe, he is looking for me…..
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I am open to trying something new to turn my love life around
SE: What if I find something fun to focus on every day, even if it is for a few minutes
UE: I promise not to dwell on what I don’t have any more
UN: I am open to letting go and trusting the process
CH: I know I am exactly where I am supposed to be at this point in my life
CB: Every day that goes by is one day closer to finding my soul mate
UA: I choose to relax and stay calm
HD: I am finally taking charge of my life
WR: I am getting excited!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else in my past who may have contributed to this loneliness
SE: I am taking responsibility for my thoughts and feelings
UE: I refuse to be a victim any more
UN: I am attracting a soul mate right now who will love me unconditionally
CH: I am willing to be patient and wait for someone who deserves me
CB: I can't wait...
UA: But, I choose to relax and trust in a higher power
HD: My heart is feeling lighter and happier
WR: I am feeling calm, confident and peaceful now...
**Take another deep breath and repeat as necessary**
Tapping tip:
Tapping on your middle finger heps reduce sadness, self-absorption, poor relationships, hypersensitivity.
It helps balance love, happiness and contentment
Let it go, let it go, let it go!
I was reading an article by Mike Robbins recently about blame and it prompted me to think about how often we play the victim and blame others in our day to day lives.
I often watch conversations unfold at work about situations that did not play out as they should have.
For whatever reason, these events did not have a positive outcome, and people immediately started pointing fingers and placing blame.
When you blame and assume the victim role, you don't have to make changes, you don't have to be a leader, you don't have to look within yourself for ways to be proactive instead of reactive - you don't have to take responsibility!
What would happen if we stepped up to the plate and put an end to blame? What would happen if we took responsibility for our actions and our reactions? What would our lives look like?
If we let go of blame, it allows us to take control, to feel freedom from negative emotions, to finally take the first step of healing and moving forward!
Look at your life and ask yourself if you are playing the victim, if you are blaming others so you don't have to take responsibility.
Who are you blaming right now?
How different would your life look if you took back control?
Empower yourself today and let it go, let it go, let it go!
I often watch conversations unfold at work about situations that did not play out as they should have.
For whatever reason, these events did not have a positive outcome, and people immediately started pointing fingers and placing blame.
When you blame and assume the victim role, you don't have to make changes, you don't have to be a leader, you don't have to look within yourself for ways to be proactive instead of reactive - you don't have to take responsibility!
What would happen if we stepped up to the plate and put an end to blame? What would happen if we took responsibility for our actions and our reactions? What would our lives look like?
If we let go of blame, it allows us to take control, to feel freedom from negative emotions, to finally take the first step of healing and moving forward!
Look at your life and ask yourself if you are playing the victim, if you are blaming others so you don't have to take responsibility.
Who are you blaming right now?
How different would your life look if you took back control?
Empower yourself today and let it go, let it go, let it go!
Come out, come out where ever you are....
Last week, one of my dear friends was unpacking boxes from a recent move when she discovered that 17 pieces were missing from a very sentimental collection she had acquired over the years.
Those pieces were a connection to her past, to her childhood, to her grandmother who had passed away.
She had moved several times in the last several years and the possibilities of where they could be were endless. Her mind raced as she traced her journeys, the places she had lived and the people who might have come into contact with them.
She was beside herself wondering what could have happened to her prized possessions, the thought literally made her sick!
Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you couldn’t find something? It might have been your car keys, your wallet, your pet or worse yet, a loved one?
The sheer panic of the unknown is worse than facing the truth and moving forward in whatever direction needs to be taken.
In order to think straight, you need to maintain a sense of calm. You have to take the emotional charge or zing out of the situation.
Once that is achieved, you think more rationally, enabling you to make decisions in regards to the course of action you need to take. Or it enables you to sit back and let the situation unfold if you have no control over the immediate circumstances.
So, how do you remove that emotional zing? How do you remain calm in a situation that has your mind and heart racing?
The following tapping script will help calm your nerves in any situation that leaves you feeling panicked.
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can and repeat as often as necessary to get the desired results.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea where my ________ is, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though my heart is racing, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I am in a state of panic and I have no idea what has happened to my ______, I love myself and all these emotions”
Round One:
EB: I can’t find my _______
SE: I am so upset
UE: I can’t find _______ anywhere
UN: I am worried
CH: Where could my _____ be located?
CB: My heart is racing and I feel like crying
UA: I can’t think straight
HD: My head feels like it is about to explode
WR: Oh please help me find my _________
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: What if someone else has my _______?
SE: Are they loving it as much as I did?
UE: Or are they abusing it?
UN: The thought makes me sick
CH: I want my ______ back
CB: But I don’t know where it is
UA: I realize this is out of my control right now
HD: I have to trust that whoever has my __________ will return it to me soon
WR: Or at least love and respect it like I did
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this panic
SE: I need to take a deep breath and relax a little
UE: Maybe Archangel Chamuel can help reunite me with my __________
UN: He’s been known to help reduce stress when worried about losing something
CH: “ Dear Archangel Chamuel, thank you for guiding me to find my ______”
CB: Divine guidance is always the best
UA: I’m feeling a little better about this now
HD: I choose to relax and trust in a higher power
WR: I am feeling calm, confident and peaceful now…….
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have no idea where my ________ is, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though my heart is racing, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I am in a state of panic and I have no idea what has happened to my ______, I love myself and all these emotions”
Round One:
EB: I can’t find my _______
SE: I am so upset
UE: I can’t find _______ anywhere
UN: I am worried
CH: Where could my _____ be located?
CB: My heart is racing and I feel like crying
UA: I can’t think straight
HD: My head feels like it is about to explode
WR: Oh please help me find my _________
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: What if someone else has my _______?
SE: Are they loving it as much as I did?
UE: Or are they abusing it?
UN: The thought makes me sick
CH: I want my ______ back
CB: But I don’t know where it is
UA: I realize this is out of my control right now
HD: I have to trust that whoever has my __________ will return it to me soon
WR: Or at least love and respect it like I did
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this panic
SE: I need to take a deep breath and relax a little
UE: Maybe Archangel Chamuel can help reunite me with my __________
UN: He’s been known to help reduce stress when worried about losing something
CH: “ Dear Archangel Chamuel, thank you for guiding me to find my ______”
CB: Divine guidance is always the best
UA: I’m feeling a little better about this now
HD: I choose to relax and trust in a higher power
WR: I am feeling calm, confident and peaceful now…….
**Take another deep breath and repeat as necessary**
To find more information on Archangel Chamel, visit this article by Doreen Virtue: http://www.healyourlife.com/author-doreen-virtue/2010/10/wisdom/inspiration/did-you-lose-something
Mirror Mirror on the wall.....
I confess I hate to shop! Yes, I am a woman and I hate to shop!
I needed to buy a new bathing suit recently, something I hadn’t shopped for in several years. There was a great sale last week, so I bit the bullet and drove to the mall knowing this was going to rank right up there with a root canal!
I found several racks with so many choices I didn’t know where to start. I gathered into my arms what looked great on the rack, keeping in mind my body was a little fleshier than the rack….ok….a LOT fleshier.
I sought out the nearest dressing room that didn’t have a long line of women and surprisingly that day, there was no line! Woo hoo, maybe it wasn’t going to be as bad as I had anticipated!
I entered the dressing room, stood in front of the mirror and it hit me…..I remembered why I hated shopping. Fluorescent lights were NOT a girl’s best friend! Ugh!
As I stood there analyzing every bump and bulge, I started to think about how women are so hard on themselves. The negative self talk is horrible. If I talked about my friends the way I talked about my body, I wouldn’t have any friends!
We need to be kinder to ourselves and find a way to accept our bodies.
The negative self talk runs like a virus in our head every time we look in the mirror. We have been doing it for so long, it has become a bad habit - we do it subconsciously.
We need to reprogram our self talk and stop the body hate!
"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the beholder is you, then it's really up to you to see yourself beautiful! "
The following tapping script will help you turn off the negative talk – start loving yourself today. If you don’t, no one else will!
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I don’t like what I see in the mirror, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t like the number on the scale, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I hate the way my ______ looks, I choose to accept my body today”
Round One:
EB: I don’t like what I see
SE: I hate my _______
UE: Too many lumps, bumps and bulges
UN: My clothes never fit right
CH: I feel fat/ugly/skinny
CB: The mirror is not my friend
UA: I can’t believe I have let myself get like this
HD: I’m a prisoner of my own body
WR: Someone let me out!!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: All this body hate can’t be good
SE: I want to learn to appreciate my body
UE: The negative self talk has gone on long enough
UN: This is a hard habit to break
CH: I would like to turn it around starting today
CB: I will start by finding one thing I like about myself
UA: Ok… I really like my ________
HD: I wonder how I would feel if I appreciated one thing about myself every day
WR: Good people come in all shapes and sizes!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this body hate
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am and what I see
UE: After all, this body is the same one that allows me to function every day
UN: I couldn’t go to work, if my body decided it was going to go on strike until I started appreciating it
CH: I better start being more grateful for everything my body does for me
CB: I am starting to feel a lot better about who I am
UA: I deserve to be healthy and happy
HD: Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the prettiest girl of all?
WR: I am!!!
I needed to buy a new bathing suit recently, something I hadn’t shopped for in several years. There was a great sale last week, so I bit the bullet and drove to the mall knowing this was going to rank right up there with a root canal!
I found several racks with so many choices I didn’t know where to start. I gathered into my arms what looked great on the rack, keeping in mind my body was a little fleshier than the rack….ok….a LOT fleshier.
I sought out the nearest dressing room that didn’t have a long line of women and surprisingly that day, there was no line! Woo hoo, maybe it wasn’t going to be as bad as I had anticipated!
I entered the dressing room, stood in front of the mirror and it hit me…..I remembered why I hated shopping. Fluorescent lights were NOT a girl’s best friend! Ugh!
As I stood there analyzing every bump and bulge, I started to think about how women are so hard on themselves. The negative self talk is horrible. If I talked about my friends the way I talked about my body, I wouldn’t have any friends!
We need to be kinder to ourselves and find a way to accept our bodies.
The negative self talk runs like a virus in our head every time we look in the mirror. We have been doing it for so long, it has become a bad habit - we do it subconsciously.
We need to reprogram our self talk and stop the body hate!
"Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the beholder is you, then it's really up to you to see yourself beautiful! "
The following tapping script will help you turn off the negative talk – start loving yourself today. If you don’t, no one else will!
Remember to change the words in this script to fit your situation and your feelings. Make it as personal and descriptive as you can.
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I don’t like what I see in the mirror, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I don’t like the number on the scale, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I hate the way my ______ looks, I choose to accept my body today”
Round One:
EB: I don’t like what I see
SE: I hate my _______
UE: Too many lumps, bumps and bulges
UN: My clothes never fit right
CH: I feel fat/ugly/skinny
CB: The mirror is not my friend
UA: I can’t believe I have let myself get like this
HD: I’m a prisoner of my own body
WR: Someone let me out!!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: All this body hate can’t be good
SE: I want to learn to appreciate my body
UE: The negative self talk has gone on long enough
UN: This is a hard habit to break
CH: I would like to turn it around starting today
CB: I will start by finding one thing I like about myself
UA: Ok… I really like my ________
HD: I wonder how I would feel if I appreciated one thing about myself every day
WR: Good people come in all shapes and sizes!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this body hate
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am and what I see
UE: After all, this body is the same one that allows me to function every day
UN: I couldn’t go to work, if my body decided it was going to go on strike until I started appreciating it
CH: I better start being more grateful for everything my body does for me
CB: I am starting to feel a lot better about who I am
UA: I deserve to be healthy and happy
HD: Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the prettiest girl of all?
WR: I am!!!
Start your day over whenever you want!
We all have days when we don’t want to get out of bed; some of us more than others.
The important thing to remember is that no matter how bad you feel, no matter what time of the day it is, you have the choice to start it all over.
The universe always hears and responds to our vibrations and it’s up to us to choose our feelings.
At any given moment you can choose to focus on something that makes you feel good, listen to some music, focus on nature, read an inspirational quote, use aroma therapy or find some other way to raise your vibration.
What are you feeling right now? Do you want to stay in that feeling or do you want to feel better?
Make the choice to start over right now. Do whatever it takes to get back on track.
The following tapping script may jump start your day or help you to start it over!
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I feel like a big grump, I accept these feelings today ”
"Even though I don’t want to face the world, I appreciate who I am right now”
Round One:
EB: I feel grumpy
SE: I want to pull the covers over my head
UE: It’s too early to face reality
UN: This is not going to be a good day
CH: I know I’m not supposed to be this moody
CB: But I really don’t feel like doing anything about it
UA: It takes energy to be in a good mood
HD: Doesn’t it?
WR: I don’t have that much energy right now
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I know if I don’t turn this around soon, my day is never going to get better
SE: Maybe I can find one thing to be grateful for right now
UE: Well, I’m alive and breathing, so God gave me another chance today
UN: I guess I need to be grateful for that
CH: I better not waste the gift he gave me
CB: I choose to focus on things that make me feel better
UA: I feel so good when I think about ______
HD: I am starting to feel a little better
WR: This day might not be so bad after all
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have contributed to my grumpiness today
SE: I choose to appreciate who I am at this very moment
UE: I love appreciating myself and others in my life
UN: My mood is starting to lift
CH: I feel like I might be able to conquer this day after all
CB: I will start by listening to my favorite music
UA: Music makes my heart smile
HD: I am so proud that I am turning this around
WR: I deserve to be happy!
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself!
I am often asked about the act of forgiving; just how does one forgive and move on?
I strongly agree with the article in my previous post. Inadequate skills are taught on how to forgive.
The ability to forgive needs to come from the heart and when your heart hurts, it makes it very difficult to take that first step!
I have created a tapping script to help those that need to take that first baby step.
Please fill in the blanks with the name or names of those that have taken control of your life by holding you hostage via your thoughts and memories.
As you are tapping, make sure you have a paper and pencil handy to write down any other thoughts or feelings that come up.
You may need to tap on those memories that surface, and get specific about the event/s that still haunt you.
Releasing those thoughts can be freeing, giving you a whole new lease on life
Give it a try, it can't hurt!
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I am still so hurt and angry, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I can’t let go, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I don’t think I can ever move beyond this, I am a good person anyway”
Round One:
EB: All this anger
SE: All this hurt
UE: I keep replaying that horrible event – over and over
UN: Like a bad movie that never ends
CH: Sometimes my hurt and anger turns to tears
CB: All this tightness in my body
UA: I hate being a prisoner of my thoughts
HD: I don’t like feeling this way
WR: I just don’t know how to let go!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I’m afraid if I forgive, I am letting _____ “off the hook”
SE: I know all of these feelings are not good for my body
UE: I might consider turning this around
UN: I need to do this for ME, not for ____
CH: I am the one paying the price, not ____
CB: Enough is enough; I am turning this around today!
UA: I refuse to let _____ have control over me and my body
HD: I am ready to let go
WR: Let’s get started!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I will start by forgiving myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this situation
SE: I can’t change the past, I have to move forward
UE: I am grateful for my new attitude
UN: My body is starting to feel lighter
CH: It feels good thinking about regaining control of my life
CB: I choose to be free of this hurt
UA: I choose to let go for good
HD: The gray cloud is lifting
WR: The sun is starting to shine in my heart once again!
Take a deep breath and repeat as often as necessary until the emotional charge has been eliminated
Tapping Tip:
If you need to free any emotions that hold resentment, tap on the inside of the index finger where the nail bed meets the finger.
Tapping on this meridian helps release feelings of guilt, past hurts and for those that are having a hard time of letting go.
Focus on the thought that is haunting you, tap the index finger and feel the negative emotions melt away.
I strongly agree with the article in my previous post. Inadequate skills are taught on how to forgive.
The ability to forgive needs to come from the heart and when your heart hurts, it makes it very difficult to take that first step!
I have created a tapping script to help those that need to take that first baby step.
Please fill in the blanks with the name or names of those that have taken control of your life by holding you hostage via your thoughts and memories.
As you are tapping, make sure you have a paper and pencil handy to write down any other thoughts or feelings that come up.
You may need to tap on those memories that surface, and get specific about the event/s that still haunt you.
Releasing those thoughts can be freeing, giving you a whole new lease on life
Give it a try, it can't hurt!
If you are new to this blog and unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I am still so hurt and angry, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I can’t let go, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me ”
"Even though I don’t think I can ever move beyond this, I am a good person anyway”
Round One:
EB: All this anger
SE: All this hurt
UE: I keep replaying that horrible event – over and over
UN: Like a bad movie that never ends
CH: Sometimes my hurt and anger turns to tears
CB: All this tightness in my body
UA: I hate being a prisoner of my thoughts
HD: I don’t like feeling this way
WR: I just don’t know how to let go!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I’m afraid if I forgive, I am letting _____ “off the hook”
SE: I know all of these feelings are not good for my body
UE: I might consider turning this around
UN: I need to do this for ME, not for ____
CH: I am the one paying the price, not ____
CB: Enough is enough; I am turning this around today!
UA: I refuse to let _____ have control over me and my body
HD: I am ready to let go
WR: Let’s get started!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I will start by forgiving myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this situation
SE: I can’t change the past, I have to move forward
UE: I am grateful for my new attitude
UN: My body is starting to feel lighter
CH: It feels good thinking about regaining control of my life
CB: I choose to be free of this hurt
UA: I choose to let go for good
HD: The gray cloud is lifting
WR: The sun is starting to shine in my heart once again!
Take a deep breath and repeat as often as necessary until the emotional charge has been eliminated
Tapping Tip:
If you need to free any emotions that hold resentment, tap on the inside of the index finger where the nail bed meets the finger.
Tapping on this meridian helps release feelings of guilt, past hurts and for those that are having a hard time of letting go.
Focus on the thought that is haunting you, tap the index finger and feel the negative emotions melt away.
Lack of Forgiveness Can Affect Our Health
I read the following article by Sheryl Walters several years ago and it was an "ah ha" moment for me. I have referred back to it many times for guidance that has consistently kept my emotions in check.
I always thought that forgiving someone meant "letting them off the hook".
What I learned was that forgiveness was not about the person who hurt me, it was about ME! It was about giving myself a gift - yes....a gift!
That priceless gift was one of better health, both physically and emotionally.
Everyone knows that being angry feels terrible. When we feel angry at someone, we get a tight feeling in our chest and body, and our minds aren't free. Feeling angry at someone who cuts you off when you are driving is bad enough. Long term, chronic anger can ruin peoples' lives. Feeling angry for something that happened in childhood can literally make people prisoners of their own emotions.
Dr. Luskin of Stanford University is studying how forgiveness can help people become healthy. The 150 volunteers who have taken part in the Stanford Forgiveness Project say that letting go of the hurt caused by other people or by forces they see as being outside themselves, is not just one of the greatest emotional releases; they feel better physically, as well.
"Getting angry and needing to forgive are universal phenomena, but the skills to forgive are inadequately taught."
Holding on to anger for too long can obviously affect a person's emotional health. But hanging on to that anger, Dr. Luskin says, can also seriously affect people's physical health.
How is the Body Affected?
Lack of forgiveness, which often occurs as a result of having been hurt, humiliated, angered, or having suffered fear or loss, feelings of guilt, or envy, can have profound effects on the way your body functions.
Physically the body is in a state of stress. Muscles tighten, causing imbalances or pain in the neck, back and limbs. Blood flow to the joints is restricted, making it more difficult for the blood to remove wastes from the tissues and reducing the supply of oxygen and nutrients to the cells. Normal processes of repair and recovery from injury or arthritis are impaired. Clenching of the jaws contributes to problems with teeth and jaw joints. Headaches can become a problem. Chronic pain may get worse.
Blood flow to the heart is constricted. Digestion is impaired. Breathing may become more difficult. Anger can seriously impair the immune system, increasing the risk of infections and illness.
Luskin cites several studies that show how anger can affect the cardiovascular system by adding to a person's general level of stress. Other studies have indicated that patients who have had heart attacks have been able to improve their physical health by practicing forgiveness and working to feel more tolerant and less angry.
Additionally, Dr. Luskin says, when the body releases certain enzymes during anger and stress, cholesterol and blood pressure levels go up, not a good long-term position to put the body in. Forgiveness has been shown to lower blood pressure naturally. The bottom line, we can eat healthy and take care of ourselves on a physical level, but if our hearts are filled with anger, our bodies are not in optimum health.
This article can be found at:
http://www.naturalnews.com/023304_forgiveness_body_health.html
Sleep is like the unicorn.....
I have been accused by many who know me that I could fall asleep standing up or at least within 5 to 10 minutes of sitting down.
Sadly, this is very true!
I have always taken sleep for granted because it has never been a problem for me.
For others, falling asleep can be a challenge and one that can create anxiety as the clock ticks ever so annoyingly nearby.
When you lack sleep, it is very easy to get caught up in worries about the future. Your mind races and doesn’t want to let go.
On a more serious note, studies have shown that lack of sleep can increase the risk for a variety of major illnesses. It can increase stress hormones and drive up blood pressure which can lead to heart attacks and strokes.
People who lack of sleep can develop problems regulating their blood sugar, which may put them at increased risk for diabetes.
So…..what can you do?
What can you do when you are lying wide awake in your bed listening to all the voices in your head?
You can get present in your thoughts. Being in the “now” can quiet those voices.
Try tapping before you go to bed so that your body can slow down and relax. Once you get into bed, you can continue to physically tap or if that in itself keeps you awake, you can mentally tap picturing the acupressure points in your mind.
If you are unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I’m tired and want to sleep, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I am filled with anxiety about ___, I choose to be calm, confident and relaxed ”
"Even though I'm scared that I won't get enough sleep, I choose to feel so relaxed and peaceful that it won't make any difference”
Round One:
EB: my eyes are wide open
SE: I can’t get to sleep
UE: My mind is racing
UN: So many voices in my head
CH: The clock is reminding me that I am running out of time
CB: I’m so afraid I won’t get enough sleep
UA: So tired
HD: So frustrated
WR: My body just won’t let go
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I am all alone with my thoughts
SE: Thoughts that make me feel anxious and tense
UE: I am open to releasing some of this tension
UN: I don’t want to worry any more
CH: I know my thinking could be more productive after a good night’s sleep
CB: I choose to let my body know it is ok to relax
UA: It is ok to let my guard down for a little while
HD: It really is safe to go to sleep
WR: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have caused my insomnia
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I may be worrying unnecessarily
SE: What if my biggest worries never happen
UE: I will have lost sleep for nothing
UN: I am willing to put those thoughts out of my mind for a minute or two
CH: I welcome a peaceful sleep
CB: I choose to be pleasantly drowsy
UA: I can feel my body relaxing and letting go
HD: I lovingly release this day and slip into a peaceful sleep
WR: Good night, sleep tight........"yawn"
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
Sadly, this is very true!
I have always taken sleep for granted because it has never been a problem for me.
For others, falling asleep can be a challenge and one that can create anxiety as the clock ticks ever so annoyingly nearby.
When you lack sleep, it is very easy to get caught up in worries about the future. Your mind races and doesn’t want to let go.
On a more serious note, studies have shown that lack of sleep can increase the risk for a variety of major illnesses. It can increase stress hormones and drive up blood pressure which can lead to heart attacks and strokes.
People who lack of sleep can develop problems regulating their blood sugar, which may put them at increased risk for diabetes.
So…..what can you do?
What can you do when you are lying wide awake in your bed listening to all the voices in your head?
You can get present in your thoughts. Being in the “now” can quiet those voices.
Try tapping before you go to bed so that your body can slow down and relax. Once you get into bed, you can continue to physically tap or if that in itself keeps you awake, you can mentally tap picturing the acupressure points in your mind.
If you are unfamiliar with the tapping process, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I’m tired and want to sleep, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though I am filled with anxiety about ___, I choose to be calm, confident and relaxed ”
"Even though I'm scared that I won't get enough sleep, I choose to feel so relaxed and peaceful that it won't make any difference”
Round One:
EB: my eyes are wide open
SE: I can’t get to sleep
UE: My mind is racing
UN: So many voices in my head
CH: The clock is reminding me that I am running out of time
CB: I’m so afraid I won’t get enough sleep
UA: So tired
HD: So frustrated
WR: My body just won’t let go
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I am all alone with my thoughts
SE: Thoughts that make me feel anxious and tense
UE: I am open to releasing some of this tension
UN: I don’t want to worry any more
CH: I know my thinking could be more productive after a good night’s sleep
CB: I choose to let my body know it is ok to relax
UA: It is ok to let my guard down for a little while
HD: It really is safe to go to sleep
WR: I forgive myself and anyone else that may have caused my insomnia
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I may be worrying unnecessarily
SE: What if my biggest worries never happen
UE: I will have lost sleep for nothing
UN: I am willing to put those thoughts out of my mind for a minute or two
CH: I welcome a peaceful sleep
CB: I choose to be pleasantly drowsy
UA: I can feel my body relaxing and letting go
HD: I lovingly release this day and slip into a peaceful sleep
WR: Good night, sleep tight........"yawn"
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
Pain, pain, go away!
Migraines! The word alone makes your head hurt……..
I work in a hospital where many employees suffer from these debilitating headaches. Many call in sick but those that do come in, are miserable.
Some have to leave their shift early so they can be in complete darkness at home, coupled with taking strong medications.
These medications are the only way they can tolerate the pain, but leave them unable to function for hours at a time.
Work, family and social lives suffer until the pain subsides.
Medically, we know that the body physically expands and contracts the blood flow to the brain, inducing pain. There are many other things that can also trigger a migraine like allergies, diet, lack of water and sleep, hormonal imbalance etc.
It may come as a surprise to many, that migraines could have an emotional connection. Until an emotional cause is discovered and eliminated, the pain will probably continue.
The most common emotional triggers of migraines are anxiety, anger, stress, guilt and fear.
First we must look at your thoughts and feelings. Are they mostly positive or negative? What is being replayed over and over in your mind? What is being rehashed? Are you having a hard time letting go of something?
The location of the pain could also be a clue. The back of the head may represent the past. The top may represent the present and the front may represent the future.
Here are some questions that can help uncover emotional cause:
- What event/s do you wish had not happened in your life?
- What was going on in your life when the migraines first started?
- Who or what are you most angry with?
- What is the pain keeping you safe from?
- Put these 3 negative emotions in order as they apply to you: __fear __guilt __anger
What would your life look like if you could manage the pain or be completely pain free?
Meridian tapping has had a strong history of reducing and eliminating migraine pain and the medications that go along with them.
I highly encourage you to incorporate the following tapping script in your quest to overcome migraines.
You may be very pleasantly surprised at the results once you tap away the emotional connection to your pain!
If this is your first exposure to tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know to use the tapping script below.
Your situation is very personal, so first tap on the words I provided and change anything that comes up for you. Be descriptive about your pain and its location.
You will be amazed at what your mind will uncover as you start tapping. You may have memories surface that you had pushed deep down and forgotten. But….they were still there, playing subconsciously in the background without you knowing. Pay very close attention to what comes up!
Don’t forget to rate your pain before you start tapping and after the 3 rounds
Karate chop point:
"Even though I have this migraine headache in my right eye and temple, I love and accept my body anyway”
"Even though I can hardly function right now, I promise to pay attention to the message my body is sending me in my pain”
"Even though I feel absolutely horrible, I deeply and completely accept myself without judgment”
Round One:
EB: This awful migraine
SE: The throbbing pain in my eye
UE: I am so worried this won’t go way or it will get worse
UN: I’m so afraid I may have to leave work
CH: I’m so tired of all this pain
CB: All this nausea
UA: I don’t want to take those awful meds again
HD: But I don’t know how I can function without them
WR: This pain is horrible!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I don’t know what is causing this pain
SE: I am open to the possibility that it is all emotional
UE: There is no way this awful pain could be tied to my thoughts and feelings
UN: But what if it is?
CH: Could it really be that easy?
CB: What if I had control all along and didn’t know it?
UA: I am ready to start feeling better
HD: I have suffered long enough
WR: I don’t need or want these headaches anymore!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I am ready to kick this pain to the curb
SE: I will start by forgiving myself and anyone else that may have contributed to this pain
UE: I choose to release any emotional or physical ties to this ongoing pain
UN: I have never given myself the loving attention I deserve, but that is going to change today
CH: I am taking control of my life
CB: I choose to chill and relax
UA: I deserve to feel healthy
HD: I can now end my day feeling healthy and whole
WR: I am so proud of myself for turning this around – I have a whole new lease on life now!
Take another deep breath and see if your pain has come down in intensity or moved to another area of your body
Remember to be persistent. Repeat as many times as necessary until the pain subsides
This script is just a start. If the pain does not subside, you must tap on the specifics of any emotional issues that present themselves, including the feelings that arise – guilt, anger, jealousy, etc.
I would be very interested in your results and would love to hear from you. Please comment below
I will see you again on Rainbow Bridge...
My dear friend Michelle, lost her precious dog Nala yesterday.
Nala's death left a hole in her family's heart!
For many families, pets earn the title of "fur children" or "fur babies". They fill a part of our heart that no one can - they make our lives whole.
They speak a language through their eyes that only we as owners understand. They love us more than we love ourselves.
They become our best friends, loving us unconditionally, protecting us and giving us endless hours of companionship. Some of us love our pets more than we like people!
When we suddenly find ourselves without our beloved companion, our world falls apart and the grief we feel is indescribable.
I have lost many pets over the years, but most recently, I lost 2 cats in 3 months.
It took several days to stop crying and many weeks getting used to not hearing their collar bells ring as they scampered through the house.
To get through those very difficult days, I relied on meridian tapping to help neutralize the emotional sting of my loss. It help me to face the empty collars, their absence at the door when I came home and the empty food bowls, without crying like a baby.
If you or someone you love is suffering right now, please try the following tapping script and keep using it until you feel better.
It won't make you forget your pet, it will help you function during the intial days of your loss.
It will "calm your inner pet grief storm"
If you are unfamiliar with tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Please substitute your pets name where applicable and change any words that fit your current situation - make it your own.
Karate chop point:
"Even though I can't stop crying, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though it so hard to imagine life without Nala, I love who I am, despite feeling this way”
"Even though I don't know how I can face tomorrow without her, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: All this Nala grief
SE: I can't stop crying
UE: She was my best friend
UN: She was always there for me
CH: She loved me no matter what mood I was in
CB: All this sadness
UA: There will never be another Nala
HD: She was so full of life
WR: I miss her so much
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: These feelings are so heavy
SE: I want to find a way to stop crying
UE: I need to be able to function
UN: I am doing the best I can right now
CH: I choose to remember the good times with Nala
CB: I know she is in a better place
UA: She doesn't hurt any more
HD: I am open to the possibility that I can find a way to move forward
WR: I know each day will get a little easier
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I remember that time when Nala made me laugh
SE: She made me laugh a lot
UE: She loved to play with _______
UN: I have many fond memories of her
CH: I choose to remember the good times
CB: I know she is around me right now
UA: I can feel her presence
HD: She is still protecting me
WR: I look forward to the day when we can cross Rainbow Bridge together!
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
If you are unfamilar with the Rainbow Bridge poem please visit:
www.rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm
Nala's death left a hole in her family's heart!
For many families, pets earn the title of "fur children" or "fur babies". They fill a part of our heart that no one can - they make our lives whole.
They speak a language through their eyes that only we as owners understand. They love us more than we love ourselves.
They become our best friends, loving us unconditionally, protecting us and giving us endless hours of companionship. Some of us love our pets more than we like people!
When we suddenly find ourselves without our beloved companion, our world falls apart and the grief we feel is indescribable.
I have lost many pets over the years, but most recently, I lost 2 cats in 3 months.
It took several days to stop crying and many weeks getting used to not hearing their collar bells ring as they scampered through the house.
To get through those very difficult days, I relied on meridian tapping to help neutralize the emotional sting of my loss. It help me to face the empty collars, their absence at the door when I came home and the empty food bowls, without crying like a baby.
If you or someone you love is suffering right now, please try the following tapping script and keep using it until you feel better.
It won't make you forget your pet, it will help you function during the intial days of your loss.
It will "calm your inner pet grief storm"
If you are unfamiliar with tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Please substitute your pets name where applicable and change any words that fit your current situation - make it your own.
Karate chop point:
"Even though I can't stop crying, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though it so hard to imagine life without Nala, I love who I am, despite feeling this way”
"Even though I don't know how I can face tomorrow without her, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: All this Nala grief
SE: I can't stop crying
UE: She was my best friend
UN: She was always there for me
CH: She loved me no matter what mood I was in
CB: All this sadness
UA: There will never be another Nala
HD: She was so full of life
WR: I miss her so much
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: These feelings are so heavy
SE: I want to find a way to stop crying
UE: I need to be able to function
UN: I am doing the best I can right now
CH: I choose to remember the good times with Nala
CB: I know she is in a better place
UA: She doesn't hurt any more
HD: I am open to the possibility that I can find a way to move forward
WR: I know each day will get a little easier
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I remember that time when Nala made me laugh
SE: She made me laugh a lot
UE: She loved to play with _______
UN: I have many fond memories of her
CH: I choose to remember the good times
CB: I know she is around me right now
UA: I can feel her presence
HD: She is still protecting me
WR: I look forward to the day when we can cross Rainbow Bridge together!
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
If you are unfamilar with the Rainbow Bridge poem please visit:
www.rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm
Tapping Tip:
Tapping on the inside of the middle finger helps sadness, grief and sorrow.
If you feel yourself start to get upset, tap the inside of the middle finger at the base of the fingernail as you focus on your beloved pet..
Everybody has problems...
When I saw this picture the quote prompted me to revisit challenging times in my past.
There were times in my life when I reached crossroads and didn't know which path to follow. Many times I just wanted to sit down, right then and there, give up and fall asleep hoping that all my problems would be solved when I woke up.
I always had an inner voice that kept pushing me forward through those challenging times. Whether the outcomes were good or bad, I was satisfied that I did what I could do at that given time in my life and the choices felt right for me.
I've had people ask me, "so how do I get through this situation, how do I find the strength to go on? How did YOU do it?"
I never had the perfect answer for everyone because each situation is as unique as are the people involved.
But if you are struggling right now and feel like giving up, I challenge you to use the following tapping script. It will calm your nerves, give you a sense of peace and allow you to step back and breathe. Don't be surprised if your conscious offers you a different perspective, one that you never thought of before today.
If nothing else, it will take the emotional zing out of your current situation which in itself gives you more clarity.
If you are unfamiliar with tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I want to give up right now, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though it so hard to imagine moving forward, I love who I am, despite feeling this way”
"Even though I don't know what the answers are, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: I don't know what to do
SE: I need some answers
UE: It all seems hopeless right now
UN: I don't think things will ever get any better
CH: I just want to give up
CB: I don't have any more to give
UA: I feel weak
HD: I feel defeated
WR: How do I go on?
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: These feelings of hopelessness are too heavy to carry around any more
SE: I really want to find a way to over come this situation
UE: I am open to a creative solution
UN: I ready to set my mind at ease
CH: I choose to imagine this situation resolving itself
CB: I am willing to give anything a try
UA: What if this silly tapping does give me some clarity?!
HD: I choose to relax and let the ideas flow
WR: I am mentally ready for things to fall into place
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I can feel it starting to fall into place
SE: Like the fog evaporating in the sun’s rays, my confusion is starting to evaporate as well
UE: It’s becoming clearer
UN: Have I been holding the answers inside all along?
CH: All I needed to do was to follow my instincts and intuition
CB: I am so grateful I am learning to trust myself
UA: I deserve to be happy!!
HD: Mirror mirror on the wall
WR: I held all the answers after all!
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
Tapping tip:
Tapping the karate chop point helps with indecisiveness and a cluttered thought process.
It stabilizes the ability to make decisions!
There were times in my life when I reached crossroads and didn't know which path to follow. Many times I just wanted to sit down, right then and there, give up and fall asleep hoping that all my problems would be solved when I woke up.
I always had an inner voice that kept pushing me forward through those challenging times. Whether the outcomes were good or bad, I was satisfied that I did what I could do at that given time in my life and the choices felt right for me.
I've had people ask me, "so how do I get through this situation, how do I find the strength to go on? How did YOU do it?"
I never had the perfect answer for everyone because each situation is as unique as are the people involved.
But if you are struggling right now and feel like giving up, I challenge you to use the following tapping script. It will calm your nerves, give you a sense of peace and allow you to step back and breathe. Don't be surprised if your conscious offers you a different perspective, one that you never thought of before today.
If nothing else, it will take the emotional zing out of your current situation which in itself gives you more clarity.
If you are unfamiliar with tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Karate chop point:
"Even though I want to give up right now, I love and accept myself anyway”
"Even though it so hard to imagine moving forward, I love who I am, despite feeling this way”
"Even though I don't know what the answers are, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: I don't know what to do
SE: I need some answers
UE: It all seems hopeless right now
UN: I don't think things will ever get any better
CH: I just want to give up
CB: I don't have any more to give
UA: I feel weak
HD: I feel defeated
WR: How do I go on?
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: These feelings of hopelessness are too heavy to carry around any more
SE: I really want to find a way to over come this situation
UE: I am open to a creative solution
UN: I ready to set my mind at ease
CH: I choose to imagine this situation resolving itself
CB: I am willing to give anything a try
UA: What if this silly tapping does give me some clarity?!
HD: I choose to relax and let the ideas flow
WR: I am mentally ready for things to fall into place
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round Three:
EB: I can feel it starting to fall into place
SE: Like the fog evaporating in the sun’s rays, my confusion is starting to evaporate as well
UE: It’s becoming clearer
UN: Have I been holding the answers inside all along?
CH: All I needed to do was to follow my instincts and intuition
CB: I am so grateful I am learning to trust myself
UA: I deserve to be happy!!
HD: Mirror mirror on the wall
WR: I held all the answers after all!
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
Tapping tip:
Tapping the karate chop point helps with indecisiveness and a cluttered thought process.
It stabilizes the ability to make decisions!
Make peace with where YOU are!
I was having a discussion about church and religion recently when the conversation surprisingly pushed a button.
I very rarely get too riled about anything, especially religion, but this conversation hit a nerve.The matter at hand was touchy because a family member had been attending a church which was not of the same denomination in which they were raised. Apparently, this ruffled some feathers in the family and they questioned the company this family member was keeping.
The problem was not that they weren't going to church, it was that they were not going to the RIGHT church!
I couldn't believe what I was hearing....and it took me back about 30 years. I had been raised a Catholic but had attended a Baptist church as a visitor that particular Sunday many decades ago.
During the sermon, the preacher said, "Do you know what I would be if I wasn't Baptist? I'd be ashamed!".
I was so insulted, I didn't hear another word he said for the remainder of the sermon! How dare this "man of the cloth" make such an arrogant statement?
I thought church was a place you went to learn, to feel safe, to feel inspired.
I sure didn't feel that way when I left and I never went back!
I have never forgotten that one sentence and it has had a big influence on me in regards to tolerance and respect for others about their religious decisions.
It feels very uncomfortable when you stand in a place of "I'm right and you're wrong".
When anyone speaks from ego, they cut themselves off from the very happiness they seek.
There is no right religion, there are many religions and the differences in those religions is what makes life so beautiful!
Religion is very personal and sacred. It isn't about how often you go to church or what church you attend, what matters is how you treat people when you aren't there.
It's about how you make people feel, how you make them smile, not how long you sit in a pew.
I heard someone once say, "Standing inside a garage doesn't make you any more a car, than sitting in a church makes you any more a christian".
I agree - Being kind to people and showing respect is a great place to start!
We need to make peace with where we are and make peace with where our friends and family are.
If your thoughts feel good to you, then you are aligned with your true self - you are an extension of a higher power and pure positive energy.
That is the point in which you are full of love and joy which then manifests into more experiences of true happiness!
What if we could step back into our own power, allow people to be, think and feel for themselves without absorbing that into our experience?
What a wonderful world it would be!
Like the song says... "Don't Worry, Be Happy!"
"Right...." she says as she rolls her eyes
That's easier said than done - I should know.
I was my own worst enemy growing up. All I could focus on were the negative outcomes of any situation that shook my self confidence.
Guess what?
The more I worried, the worse my situation became.
It took me decades to realize that what you think about, you bring about!
In reflection, I realized that it was during those darkest times that I grew the most!
I discovered who I was and what I was made of.
Those times in my life were exactly where I needed to be, as it polished my character and made me who I am today.
Meridian tapping, has allowed me to focus on any challenging situation and see it for what it is - an opportunity for learning and growing
Tapping has allowed me to remove the emotional zing from any given situation and has taken problem solving to a whole new level!
I wish I had learned how to do this as a child, it would have save me a lot of stomach aches!
My gift today is a tapping script to use as you face situations that shake your faith and self confidence.
If you are unfamiliar with tapping, please see the "introduction to tapping" link at the top of this page. It will provide you with everything you need to know!
Worry tapping script:
"Even though I am so worried, I love and accept myself anyway”
Karate chop point:
"Even though it is hard to remain positive, I love who I am, despite feeling this way”
"Even though I can’t stop worrying about this situation, I accept these feelings and everything they mean to me”
Round One:
EB: All this worrying
SE: All I can focus on is, "what if"
UE: This is who I have been all my life
UN: I don’t know how to stop thinking about what might happen
CH: I feel like a prisoner of my own thoughts
CB: I have become my worst enemy
UA: I am Captain Worry Wart
HD: I don't think I can ever stop worrying
WR: Can I worry about something for YOU?
Round Two:
EB: I really would like to stop worrying
SE: Worrying doesn't feel good
UE: If I am worrying, I have no room for happy thoughts
UN: I am open to finding a way to turn this situation around
CH: I am willing to let go of the "what if’s"
CB: What if I worry about something that never happens?
UA: I will have wasted precious energy that I could have been spent doing something fun
HD: Enough is enough, I am done wasting time and energy!
WR: What if this silly tapping stuff really does work?!
Round Three:
EB: I am open to forgiving myself and anyone else that may have contributed to all this worry
SE: I appreciate the new way I am starting to look at this situation
UE: I love taking charge of my emotions
UN: No more doom and gloom for me!!
CH: I know that everything will be just fine
CB: I now choose to feel safe
UA: I choose to feel calm, relaxed and confident
HD: I am feeling more peaceful
WR: All is well!
Tapping tip:
Tapping under the eye helps reduce worry and anxiety. It stabilizes the emotions and restores confidence!
Have you become a victim of your pain?
How often do you use pain as an excuse to avoid living life?
Do you find yourself using your pain to avoid situations where you might get hurt?
Do you find yourself using your pain as an excuse to avoid doing something you’d rather
not do?
Do you waste precious energy complaining about how bad you feel to anyone who will listen?
If you do, you are not alone. Many people do these things subconsciously, when their pain has become such a huge part of their life! In a way, their pain becomes their identity, an identity they’d be lost without!
I worked with a client recently who was in constant back pain from a car accident. Her pain was very real and over time it had become such a part of who she was that it was keeping her from living a quality life.
She didn’t enjoy her pain, she didn’t want her pain, and yet, subconsciously it was the one thing in life she could count on being there. And it became so much a part of her identity that she didn’t know who she would be without it! Her pain was also keeping her connected to certain people in her life who served her. On the other hand, it was also keeping her disconnected from people or events in her life that felt unpleasant.
When I suggested to her that her pain probably had some emotional components that were keeping her tied to it and that she had indeed become a victim of her pain, it was an Ah-ha moment for her. She totally agreed she had emotional issues tied to the accident, but never seriously considered them as a reason for the ongoing pain. As many people do, she felt her pain was physical, not emotional. Once we started isolating and attacking the emotional issues tied to the accident, she started making real progress.
With each session we peeled away more layers, even those preceding the accident. With each layer came more clarity and insight into her authentic self. Each layer brought a greater sense of peace. She started gaining self confidence and her life slowly began to change. Her relationships also changed as she purged the toxic people from her life, which in turn, helped her pain subside. She took charge of her life instead of remaining a victim!
How would it feel if you could stop being a victim of your own pain?
What if you could discover the emotional contributor to YOUR pain?
What would your life look like if you were pain free?
What if....you could change your life by looking inside yourself for the answers?
Imagine the possibilities!
You deserve good health, peace and calmness!
Do you find yourself using your pain to avoid situations where you might get hurt?
Do you find yourself using your pain as an excuse to avoid doing something you’d rather
not do?
Do you waste precious energy complaining about how bad you feel to anyone who will listen?
If you do, you are not alone. Many people do these things subconsciously, when their pain has become such a huge part of their life! In a way, their pain becomes their identity, an identity they’d be lost without!
I worked with a client recently who was in constant back pain from a car accident. Her pain was very real and over time it had become such a part of who she was that it was keeping her from living a quality life.
She didn’t enjoy her pain, she didn’t want her pain, and yet, subconsciously it was the one thing in life she could count on being there. And it became so much a part of her identity that she didn’t know who she would be without it! Her pain was also keeping her connected to certain people in her life who served her. On the other hand, it was also keeping her disconnected from people or events in her life that felt unpleasant.
When I suggested to her that her pain probably had some emotional components that were keeping her tied to it and that she had indeed become a victim of her pain, it was an Ah-ha moment for her. She totally agreed she had emotional issues tied to the accident, but never seriously considered them as a reason for the ongoing pain. As many people do, she felt her pain was physical, not emotional. Once we started isolating and attacking the emotional issues tied to the accident, she started making real progress.
With each session we peeled away more layers, even those preceding the accident. With each layer came more clarity and insight into her authentic self. Each layer brought a greater sense of peace. She started gaining self confidence and her life slowly began to change. Her relationships also changed as she purged the toxic people from her life, which in turn, helped her pain subside. She took charge of her life instead of remaining a victim!
How would it feel if you could stop being a victim of your own pain?
What if you could discover the emotional contributor to YOUR pain?
What would your life look like if you were pain free?
What if....you could change your life by looking inside yourself for the answers?
Imagine the possibilities!
You deserve good health, peace and calmness!
Heal your "heavy heart" with meridian tapping
Today's posting on my Facebook page prompted me to write my first blog post!
There were so many responses to the "heavy heart" picture, I felt drawn to helping anyone who is open to suggestions
As many of you know, I have worked with friends, family and clients using meridian tapping to overcome many emotional and physical challenges.
Having a heavy heart is no different and can be eased with the same process that I have successfully used for the last 3 years.
If you are not familiar with tapping in general or the tapping points, I want you to first download the stress report by filling out the form on the right side of this page. That report will have a diagram of all the points.
Second, I want you to watch the video by Jessica Ortner on the "introduction to tapping" tab at the top of this page. The only difference is that I add the wrist point after the top of the head point. The wrist point is located on the inside of both wrists. Just tap them lightly together just like a lady would when she puts perfume on the wrists and rubs or taps them together. In the script, that point is the one that I labeled as "WR"
Third, I want you to take a piece of paper and pencil and write down the intensity of your "heavy heart" rating it between a 1 and 10 with 10 being the highest intensity or the worst you could feel right now.
Also write down where you are feeling that in your body. For example, your heart is beating fast, your palms are sweaty, you feel like crying, you have a sick feeling in your stomach, etc.
After you have written all that down, I want you to focus on your current situation that is causing you a heavy heart. Really concentrate on it and then use the following tapping script as you tap on all the points while repeating what I have written here
Do it exactly as I have written and after the third round I want you to reassess your intensity level and write that number down. Did it change? Do you physically feel any different?
Note any changes
Then I would like you to repeat the entire tapping script again and replace it with the words that fit your specific situation.
For example, you might be grieving over a lost love or the death of a pet or financial loss or a physical illness....use your own words and make it specific to you.
After you have done that, reassess your intensity again and write that number down....did it change?
Do this EVERY day, several times if you have to, to start turning your life around
You deserve to be happy!
Love and light always.....Cindy
Karate Chop:
Even though I have a heavy heart today, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have a very heavy heart, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me
Even though my heart feels like it could fall out of my chest , deep down I know I can move beyond this
There were so many responses to the "heavy heart" picture, I felt drawn to helping anyone who is open to suggestions
As many of you know, I have worked with friends, family and clients using meridian tapping to overcome many emotional and physical challenges.
Having a heavy heart is no different and can be eased with the same process that I have successfully used for the last 3 years.
If you are not familiar with tapping in general or the tapping points, I want you to first download the stress report by filling out the form on the right side of this page. That report will have a diagram of all the points.
Second, I want you to watch the video by Jessica Ortner on the "introduction to tapping" tab at the top of this page. The only difference is that I add the wrist point after the top of the head point. The wrist point is located on the inside of both wrists. Just tap them lightly together just like a lady would when she puts perfume on the wrists and rubs or taps them together. In the script, that point is the one that I labeled as "WR"
Third, I want you to take a piece of paper and pencil and write down the intensity of your "heavy heart" rating it between a 1 and 10 with 10 being the highest intensity or the worst you could feel right now.
Also write down where you are feeling that in your body. For example, your heart is beating fast, your palms are sweaty, you feel like crying, you have a sick feeling in your stomach, etc.
After you have written all that down, I want you to focus on your current situation that is causing you a heavy heart. Really concentrate on it and then use the following tapping script as you tap on all the points while repeating what I have written here
Do it exactly as I have written and after the third round I want you to reassess your intensity level and write that number down. Did it change? Do you physically feel any different?
Note any changes
Then I would like you to repeat the entire tapping script again and replace it with the words that fit your specific situation.
For example, you might be grieving over a lost love or the death of a pet or financial loss or a physical illness....use your own words and make it specific to you.
After you have done that, reassess your intensity again and write that number down....did it change?
Do this EVERY day, several times if you have to, to start turning your life around
You deserve to be happy!
Love and light always.....Cindy
Heres your "Heavy Heart" tapping script:
Karate Chop:
Even though I have a heavy heart today, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
Even though I have a very heavy heart, I accept this feeling and everything it means to me
Even though my heart feels like it could fall out of my chest , deep down I know I can move beyond this
Round One:
EB: My heart is heavy
SE: I’ve been lugging this heaviness around for a long time
UE: Sometimes this emotional pain is too much for me to carry alone
UN: This is such a difficult time
CH: I feel so all alone
CB: This heavy turmoil
UA: This inner storm
HD: This emotional monster
WR: It all feels so dark
SE: I’ve been lugging this heaviness around for a long time
UE: Sometimes this emotional pain is too much for me to carry alone
UN: This is such a difficult time
CH: I feel so all alone
CB: This heavy turmoil
UA: This inner storm
HD: This emotional monster
WR: It all feels so dark
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the second round of tapping**
Round Two:
EB: I am so tired of carrying this heavy heart
SE: I am open to the possibility that there may be a way of unloading this burden
UE: Even though I never thought it was possible to move beyond this, there might be a way
UN: I am ready to turn this emotional pain around TODAY!!
CH: Is it really possible that this tapping thing could help?
CB: It all seems to simple and hard to believe
UA: But I am ready to give it a try
HD: No matter how silly I feel right at this moment
WR: I deserve to be happy!!
SE: I am open to the possibility that there may be a way of unloading this burden
UE: Even though I never thought it was possible to move beyond this, there might be a way
UN: I am ready to turn this emotional pain around TODAY!!
CH: Is it really possible that this tapping thing could help?
CB: It all seems to simple and hard to believe
UA: But I am ready to give it a try
HD: No matter how silly I feel right at this moment
WR: I deserve to be happy!!
** Now take a deep breath or two and proceed to the third round of tapping**
Round three:
EB: I am starting to feel lighter
SE: This tapping thing just might be helping
UE: I choose to let go of this emotional pain that has kept me a prisoner
UN: I am ready to start living again
CH: I may even consider forgiving myself and anyone one else that may have contributed to this pain
CB: Forgiving is the first step to emotional healing
UA: I will take baby steps in this process until it all feels just right
HD: I am so proud of myself for taking the necessary steps to turn this around
WR: I choose calmness, clarity and peace as a way of life starting today!!
SE: This tapping thing just might be helping
UE: I choose to let go of this emotional pain that has kept me a prisoner
UN: I am ready to start living again
CH: I may even consider forgiving myself and anyone one else that may have contributed to this pain
CB: Forgiving is the first step to emotional healing
UA: I will take baby steps in this process until it all feels just right
HD: I am so proud of myself for taking the necessary steps to turn this around
WR: I choose calmness, clarity and peace as a way of life starting today!!
Take another deep breath and remember that everything will be alright!
Please let me know if you have any questions, by leaving a comment below or on my Facebook page "Calming Your Inner Storm"
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